If you were looking for relationship advice trust issues then the first thing you should understand is that its gonna take work and time to build and establish the trust you once had for your partner. When your partner is being secretive and doesn’t give honest answers its totally understandable for you to become suspicious.

If you want to be able to trust your partner you’re gonna have to talk to them about your difficulty trusting them. A partner can’t be secretive in a relationship. Honesty and openness is important in having a healthy relationship.

You have to communicate with each other. I will always say that communication is the fundamental building block in a relationship and without it, a relationship can’t exist. Only resentment can be created from a relationship with no communication.

If you resent each other for not knowing how the other feels then how can you possible trust each other. Resentment doesn’t build trust, it destroys it. You should also forget the past. Relationships take work and if you’re willing to fix and build that trust again, then forget the past.

If you keep those feelings of betrayal or anger in your heart, you can’t begin to start trusting your partner because you’re still feeling the pain from what happened in the past. Focus on the present and what you need to do to fix the problems in your relationship.

When trust is violated and harms the person in the process, trust isn’t lost….it goes away. This doesn’t mean that the relationship can’t be saved. Its just gonna take time to establish the trust that was lost. Remember that old saying “We always hurt the ones we love” ? This is why we can’t take the people we love for granted.

If we do, we will end up hurting in a way that we can’t apologize and make up for what we’ve done. From now on, there should be nothing but honesty and openness between the two of you. The only way to build trust is with effective communication.

I hope this is helpful for those of you looking for relationship advice trust issues, and that you’ll consider building trust with these methods.

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Question by bluedragon: how do I get back ex back?
well me and my ex broke up, he dumped me said he can’t trust me anymore, and he wants to be single. I begged, and I cried, and still nothing came of it. We still live together, he says he just doesn’t know right now about getting together and that he’s happy being single. I’m not sure how long do I have to wait for him to come back or if he ever will come back again. In the mean time, someone else came along, I guess he makes me happy, and he keeps me occupied from being depressed and emotionally unstable about trying to get my ex back, and then when my ex finally told me he still just want to be single, I told my ex fine, I guess I will have to let you go, but at least you can be happy for me that I have someone that I can move on to, and he’s a good guy and I won’t be bothering you anymore. Then my ex flipped out and was like if you are messing with him, you can’t mess with me, like he started to act like there was a possible chance we might have gotten back, but since I started seeing someone, he was like it’s final. We are still in each other’s lives some way some how, but I feel the distant, I feel like he really can’t trust me or want me back after all this. But he says he still loves me, and I love him, it’s just that he has major trust issues with me and now he doesn’t want to give me another chance. I want to know when it’s over, why do guys care whether or not the person they dump is with someone else? Why do guys get mad about that, and also this new guy is really good to me, but I know if my ex asked me to come back, I would probably end everything with him, but since my ex isn’t asking me to come back, and dunno if he will ever, should I be waiting or just move on and if he comes back, he comes back, if not, then just move on. What is best? keep contacting him and making myself available, or ignore him and be with this new guy, what’s more effective. I know this a serious of questions, but just answer 1if you can’t answer all. I know sometimes if you leave your ex too long, then you may never get him back, but should I just let him completely go for now, and hopefully that when he’s with someone else, he will usually realize I’m still the best for him, what do you guys think??? A guy’s perspective is helpful.

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Answer by SwEEtie PiE
Almost every adult has experienced a break up sometime during their life, and most of the time they just learn how to move on.

But what if you’re not one of those people that likes to play the victim? You want your ex back and you’re willing to do a little work to make it happen. That’s a good and smart choice.

Fact is, around 90% of all break ups can be reversed…if you know the steps you need to take to win back your ex. We’ll talk about some of those in a second, but first I want to point out that you’ll find some amazing resources down at the bottom of this article. These are the best sites I’ve found at laying out a step-by-step, easy to follow gameplan for getting back together. You owe it to yourself to take a look.

Okay, now on to some tips…

The first step in learning how to get back together with your ex is to determine why exactly the breakup occurred. Even though you can’t go back into the past to change the reason the breakup occurred, you can learn from the mistake and try to grow from it.

The breakup may have occurred because of one specific event, or even from a behavior that your ex didn’t want to deal with anymore. No matter what the reason for the breakup was, you need to find out the specifics so you can learn how to deal with the situation later on. When you follow the plan outlined at the sites below, you will get your ex back. But this time you want to keep the relationship together, right? So that’s step one.

The next step is to make sure you don’t make yourself seem needy. Even though almost everyone feels like they need to express to their ex that they cannot live without them, there is no point in telling them that. Instead stay strong, let your ex see that you are okay by yourself, and show everyone around you that you have self confidence and you are happy with yourself. Seeming needy or desperate will only push your ex further away, so make sure to maintain your confidence to get him to crawl right back to you.

This is one of the main points you’ll learn when you visit the sites I tell you about below. In fact, you’ll learn exactly what to say and how to say it. This one little technique alone can plant the idea in your ex’s head that they made a mistake. It’s very powerful!

Trying to make your ex jealous is one of the worst things you can do if you want to get back with your ex, since all it is going to do is show him that you have moved on and that he should do the same. Instead, you want him to think that he was the best thing in your life, and that nobody compares to what he had to offer you. By boosting his confidence without seeming needy, he will soon realize the two of you were great together despite the small fight or differences. Also, avoid getting upset if he is seeing someone else, because you won’t be able to stop it no matter what you try.

Setting up a meeting to talk with your ex is the best way to sort out the problems the two of you are having as long as you’ve followed the lessons outlined in the sites below first.

If you go in unprepared, or do what most people do, not only will a get-together with your ex not result in you two getting back together, it will probably wind up making things worse.

Getting back with your ex isn’t rocket science, but you need to make sure you are behaving correctly to make him realize he is better off with you. Acting needy or childish will only push your ex further away, and that’s the opposite of what you want to do, right.

Just follow the steps and the plan as outlined on the sites below and you’ll be all set. Good luck!

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Answer by Big J
Don’t you ask this weekly?

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I just graduated college and met a really sweet guy. Unfortunately, I am scared to get hurt and our relationship had some issues due to this. He said that I shut myself down and distanced myself from him sometimes, and I couldn’t really trust him–not because of anything he did (he always called me when he said he would, etc.) I would think up all the signs that he was just using me/ didn’t really care and then yell at him about it/threaten to leave him, and he had no idea why I was so angry at him.

He put up with it for a while (3 months) but eventually got sick of it and broke it off with me, saying he didn’t want to lose me as a friend. We didn’t talk for about a week, then went out for drinks and ended up sleeping together again. We were going to "see where it went" but it didn’t work out again–nothing as bad as the first time, but I can tell he doesn’t fully trust me/isn’t ready to try again. He said he has feelings for me and is attracted to me but that it’s too stressful.

We decided we would stay friends. Do you think I have any chance of getting him back? I fully recognize how bad my behavior was and I’m willing to work on it. Should I just realize I messed up, move on, and try not to repeat the same mistake again? How can I chill out with the next guy?

Focus on being a good friend to him and in the meantime continue working on those areas of weakness. It may be that in time, with your ex seeing how much you’ve matured/changed for the better, he will want to be with you again.

However, don’t cling to that thought of being with him. It’s obvious that you do have trust issues and such, so spend time on yourself and keep your focus off of being in a relationship that you know you are not ready for. Make sure you do not step into rebound territory with some other person when you still have feelings for your ex because that would set you up for failure and bring you steps back away from the person you need to be in order to have a successful relationship.

So focus on yourself, enjoy being single, and keep yourself busy doing things that will take your mind off your ex.

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