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we split up about 3 weeks ago because he said i changed an i lied when i never. i cried for about 2 days i was gutted. i tried everything to get him back rang him seen him an tried speaking to him but all he was bothered about is this lad that id been speaking to. it was like he didnt want me to be involved with any other lad. he said he wants to come round to mine on the weekend to ’sort things out’ i really want him back please help me with what i can say to him to make him believe how much i want him back . this is URGENT
i understand what yous are all sayin. but hes cumin to sort it out this weekend. he actually asked me if he could. you need to help me what i can say so i dont make a fool of myself thanks i proper aprreciate this

The question is why arent people trying to work on their relationships anymore? Why arent they willing to do whatever it takes? Quite frankly, there are tons of reasons for that. But if you dont want to throw the towel in and love your ex-boy or girlfriend enough to be able to do anything to get your ex back, then these tips are for you.

1. Ok. It Wasnt Totally His/Her Fault

You know, if you look at it, you will find that you contributed to the breakup. Even if you were loving, kind, nice, sweet and all the supposed good things you were, you still did something. It is amazing to see people get attracted to each other and then settle into some boring routine.

Most people say that love is in phases: attraction, attachment, security and all that. While this may be so, you should realise that something brought you two together in the first place. What did you see in him or her?
Think about this critically. Did you stop being playful? Did you get too serious and demanding? Did stop being sexy what he/she found intriguing at the onset? Did you stop being attentive?

You will notice that I did not ask the common questions like, Am I not sexy anymore? Did I not give him enough?. This is because most times, thats not the issue. The issue is deeper and more ingrained. Think about this and find out where you went wrong. Please note: This phase is important and is the foundation for to get your ex back.

2. Its Time For The Green Light

After you have found where you were wrong, call him/her and try to get together. When you get to meet, tell him/her where you went wrong. Most times, asking him/her may not be a good idea as they may be too nice to tell you. In some instances, they may not even know the real reason why they broke up with you. So, apologise and no matter how much you want to tell him/her you want them, DONT! This is the second crucial thing to do to get your ex back.

3. Walk Away

As soon as youre done, walk away. Do you understand that? Dont go all mushy and teary. Dont ask to be taken back. Pity wasnt the reason he/she started dating you. Its not the reason youll get your ex back. Even if the pain feels unbearable and youre on the verge of tears, make sure youre ought of sight or safely home before crying.

With these 3 moves, you have set the stage and have gotten the ball rolling to get your ex back. Theres more to this, but start with these and you will find that his/her interest in you will slightly increase.

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About a month ago, I broke up with a guy in a sort of heat-of-the-moment type of thing, we had been fighting a lot and it just came up all of a sudden. I was numb about it and thought it was just because we had been together for so long. I think he started to move on in that situation, but we’re better friends than we were in our relationship (another struggle we had, I felt we lost our friendship after we got into a relationship) A couple weeks ago we started talking more and more and I thought something might happen again, but didn’t want to rush it. I decided to tell him I had lied to him about drinking a few times (he doesn’t like drinking, and I went out a few times not telling him I’d be doing it) He wasn’t happy about it, and told me he’s never gone back to an ex after he lied – and he agreed with telling me he may get over it, because supposedly I meant more to him than all of his exes (about 5 he said) He told me he wasn’t sure if he could have another relationship with me ever again, but he wasn’t ruling anything out in the future…. then he completely contradicted himself by saying, "you could find someone a lot better than me." when I said he was the only guy i wanted to be with, and that I was too good for him. He said he needs time to be "selfish" which I can’t still get why he feels the need to do that. He said he can trust me, but I want him to see me as someone he can be in a relationship with. He said he needs a while, maybe until September when we go back to school (I’m in 1st year university, him 2nd year, at the same school uncoincidentally) what can I do to get him to see he belongs with me, even through everything we’ve been through? Keep in mind, he told me I’m the closest person to him in his life… so I think that means hang out at least once or twice a week.

Also while saying that, he said he may have feelings for someone else but he can’t even begin to think about it right now…. any advice for what to do with that?

Ever hear that saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder?" Or "Guys want what they can’t have?" Normally, I would say forget it, and move on. But it seems as if you love him, and when love is in the equation, logical answers don’t matter. So, let him have this break, yes, hang out with him, but male sure to not talk about your relationship, just be his friend for now. Being there for him, with no strings attached, will open his eyes. If not, its not meant to be.
Good Luck
I hope this helps

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Controversial Tactics to Win an Ex Back – Give Up Wanting Your Ex So That Your Ex Will Want You Back

Perhaps you have already broken up with your ex but you still want him/her back. So you tried all sort of things and take all sort of action, but it doesn’t seem to work. Why is that so?

Well, the fact is if you try to use logical methods to win your ex back, it can make the situation worse and the result may not be what you desire.

For example, you tried calling your ex. Your ex did not pick up the phone. What will you do next? Most probably, you will be tempted to take the logical approach.

“Well, if he/she did not pick up the phone, I will call him/her until he/she answers me.”

This is a very logical step that most people will take, but it is definitely not the best move. The truth is that because of panic, you will be anxious to call your ex over and over again until he/she picks up the phone.

This is a sign of desperation and your ex can sense it. If not, why are you calling him/her so often and so urgently?

Don’t do that. That will only make the situation worse. Instead, you will want to use the controversial tactics instead.

Perhaps, it will be very helpful to you if you know some basic human psychology. The fact is people desire what they do not or cannot easily have. If you can get something very easily, you will not desire it so much.

And that is why logical approach fails while controversial tactics work so much better.

In the logical approach, you are giving your ex the signal that he/she can easily get your back as and when he/she wants, since you are the one who is eager to get him/her back. This explains why your ex is not too keen to get back together with you.

So, why not try the controversial approach instead. Tell your ex that you respect his/her decision over the break up. You don’t want to call him/her to tell her that. Instead, sent your ex a letter instead.

You need to convey that you are alright with the break up. You don’t want to argue over the break up. This will open the door for you should you want to win your ex back in the future.

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You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done those things that should NEVER be done.

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like if you were taking a break of some sort. How would a guy act around the girl he broke up with if if he was planning on getting back together?

Here is a great website on how to get your ex back. Check it out if you want to: http://www.exbackguides.com/

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My ex boyfriend is acting like such a Prick
- he is starting fights with my friends
- i told him to stop , ill talk to her ( trying to sort things out etc..)
- then he yells at me for trying to sort things out , between him and her
- delets me as a friend off bebo
- i think he has deleted and blocked me off msn too

but how can i get my twilight dvd off him
if he wont anwser to me >.<

Twilight sucks, so good riddance.

Haha just kidding. If you purchased this DVD then it is legally yours. You can bring the police to his place to pick it up if he won’t answer you.

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