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How do I get my parents back together?
My parents just told us yesterday that they were getting divorced. I didn’t know how to respond so I just locked myself in my room the rest of the night. Now more than anything I want to get them back together but I have no idea how to do it. My dad is moving out tonight and were gonna go house hunting soon. I really need an idea fast and really fast.
Ryan that has to hurt really bad.
I remember when my parents divorced. I’d lock myself in the bathroom and cry for hours. I begged them to get back together. They never did.
I’m old enough to share this with you Ryan. I know it seems that right now the world is falling apart and you want to save everyone that you love. Try to understand that even though it hurts so bad right now that in time it does get a lot better.
My parents never stopped loving me. They loved one another because they had me and my brother. That never stopped either. But sometimes when 2 people can’t live together anymore it just means that life has something different for them to do. That they need to move in a different direction. It will all be fine. I promise you that.
When Your Wife Wants a Divorce and You Don’t
The first thing you need to do is assess the situation you are in and make sure that you truly want to save the marriage. You wife wants a divorce for a reason and that reason may or may not be known to you. If you do know the reason, think about whether it is something you can get passed or not. A lot of times people try and save their marriage ‘for the kids’ but this is a bad idea. The reason for that is that it does the children no good if the parents are constantly fighting. In order to save your marriage, you must truly want to be married to your wife and you must be able to look passed and get over the ‘reason’ why your wife wants a divorce.
If you have decided that you can forgive and get passed the reason you are ready to start saving your marriage. What you need to do first is to simply tell your wife that you are ready to save the marriage and that is your main goal. When it comes to divorce, most couples talk about lawyers and court. Instead of doing that, focus on saving the marriage. Tell your wife that she can concentrate on lawyers and court if she wants, but you will be concentrating on being the best husband you can be.
Marriage is not about finding the person you will love forever, marriage is about learning to love the person you chose. You have to show your wife that you will be an easy person to love. By doing simple things you can easily show her that you are or will learn to be a great husband. I’m not saying to just give in to all demands, but going the extra mile to make sure you are doing your part certainly helps.
You need to really sit back and think about what kind of husband you are. Do you need improvement? I can tell you that I have never met anyone who didn’t need improvement so don’t worry. This doesn’t mean you are a bad husband, actually it means just the opposite. Admitting that you need improvement and trying to improve makes you the ideal husband for most women. Show your wife that you are willing to do what it takes by working on what you need to work on. Buy a book, a course, or a video about marriage and how to be a good husband. This will show your wife you are serious and are willing to work for the marriage and your lives together.
Write a list and ask your wife to do the same. Sit down and write out all the things you hate about your wife. I stress the word ‘hate’ because these should be things that you cannot stand. Don’t write down ‘do the dishes more’, write down if she had an affair, is abusive, or anything else that will seriously damage your life and your marriage. Ask her to do the same. Simply say ‘I know you want a divorce but if you don’t mind can you please write down the things that are making you come to that decision so that I don’t make the same mistakes in the future.”
Ryan Travista
http://www.articlesbase.com/divorce-articles/when-your-wife-wants-a-divorce-and-you-dont-706325.html
Niley: They have both moved on. Miley and Nick not getting back together.
Ken Baker talks Miley/Nick, Miley/Liam and Selena/Nick on Ryan Seacrest’s radio show.
He says that Nick and Miley have both moved on. They have not seen eachother in a very long time despite living in the same neighborhood, and they are both in hardcore relationships with other people.
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Marriage Counseling Could Make Things Worse
See, most of the time, marriage counseling turns in to nothing more than a weekly blame session. The husband will say everything that the wife did wrong and the wife will return the favor. Needless to say, this leads to just more of the same arguing that you are trying to get away from.
The counselors want you to expose the wrongs and the rights in each session but they often overlook the fact that it’s human nature to remember the bad and forget the good. Because of this, the husband or wife can talk about the good things for 50 minutes of the hour session, but the 10 minutes of bad things are whats going to be remembered and thought about. It will leave you thinking ‘does she really think that way about me’ or ‘am I really that bad’ and those are the thoughts that lead to fighting.
The key to counseling is to realize that your partner is talking about the bad things because he or she cares and wants things to work. For the most part, your partner wouldn’t agree to counseling if he or she didn’t truly want things to work. Also, you and your partner should talk about what is going to be said before the session. My wife and I used to swap a list about 2 hours before we went to counseling. I would write down the good and the bad and so would she. We would also add a little joke or something to make each other smile at the end of the list. This lightens the mood and makes things easier.
Try to talk to your partner during the ride to the session. Tell your partner that no matter what is said or exposed, you are in this together and doing it to save the marriage and be happy. You can’t fix anything if you don’t know what’s broken. The problem is, when it comes to marriage counseling, when people are told what needs fixing, they take it personally and take offense.
The key is to never give up on your marriage or your partner. My wife and I almost didn’t make it. She left me, was unfaithful, stole things from me, and was just a plain nightmare. That was 6 years ago. No one would have ever thought (including us) that we would be together today. Now we are a happily married couple with two beautiful children and things couldn’t be better.
Ryan Travista
http://www.articlesbase.com/divorce-articles/marriage-counseling-could-make-things-worse-706329.html
