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How to get back together with a guy – after you broke up with him and lied?
About a month ago, I broke up with a guy in a sort of heat-of-the-moment type of thing, we had been fighting a lot and it just came up all of a sudden. I was numb about it and thought it was just because we had been together for so long. I think he started to move on in that situation, but we’re better friends than we were in our relationship (another struggle we had, I felt we lost our friendship after we got into a relationship) A couple weeks ago we started talking more and more and I thought something might happen again, but didn’t want to rush it. I decided to tell him I had lied to him about drinking a few times (he doesn’t like drinking, and I went out a few times not telling him I’d be doing it) He wasn’t happy about it, and told me he’s never gone back to an ex after he lied – and he agreed with telling me he may get over it, because supposedly I meant more to him than all of his exes (about 5 he said) He told me he wasn’t sure if he could have another relationship with me ever again, but he wasn’t ruling anything out in the future…. then he completely contradicted himself by saying, "you could find someone a lot better than me." when I said he was the only guy i wanted to be with, and that I was too good for him. He said he needs time to be "selfish" which I can’t still get why he feels the need to do that. He said he can trust me, but I want him to see me as someone he can be in a relationship with. He said he needs a while, maybe until September when we go back to school (I’m in 1st year university, him 2nd year, at the same school uncoincidentally) what can I do to get him to see he belongs with me, even through everything we’ve been through? Keep in mind, he told me I’m the closest person to him in his life… so I think that means hang out at least once or twice a week.
Also while saying that, he said he may have feelings for someone else but he can’t even begin to think about it right now…. any advice for what to do with that?
Ever hear that saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder?" Or "Guys want what they can’t have?" Normally, I would say forget it, and move on. But it seems as if you love him, and when love is in the equation, logical answers don’t matter. So, let him have this break, yes, hang out with him, but male sure to not talk about your relationship, just be his friend for now. Being there for him, with no strings attached, will open his eyes. If not, its not meant to be.
Good Luck
I hope this helps
What is the best thing I can do to get my ex boyfriend back?
My boyfriend and I were dating for a year and a half. We split up a little over two weeks ago due to many differences and lots of on going unnecessary fights. I don’t feel good about this at all, we were so in love and talked many times about having a family and spending our lives together. I never thought he would want this to end, even with all the fighting, I always thought we would work things out. About a month ago we got an apartment, which has made this break up even harder. I realize there has been a lot of stress on his part, working two jobs and so many things he would like to get done, but as a couple (in love), don’t you work together and not give up regardless? The last fight we had which was, well the day of our break up, he said that he just hit his breaking point and that things would no longer work for us, we’re two different people. I just don’t get it, why after we just take the step of getting our own place is he so sure that we’re not meant to be? After all that we’ve been through together? I know that this man is sensitive, emotional, and caring, but all ive seen these last two weeks is someone who acts so careless towards me, like he never even loved me. Is that just a front? I want him back so bad! He says there is no chance, but isn’t it too soon for him to even tell, I mean in time will he realize that maybe he made a mistake? If he ever truly loved me wouldn’t he want to work something out eventually? I know I was frustrating him with all my meltdowns the first couple weeks, but i’ve decided to take a different approach in hopes to win him back. I’m going to work towards my independence, not harass him, give him his much needed space. Anything else I can do to make him realize that he should give this another shot? Please help, this man is impossible to read! Every response I get is emotionless, and I just don’t see how he can be ready to just forget about me after a year and a half. Just want to add there isn’t another girl involved in case that’s what you’re thinking, I know that for a fact. He just said he can’t live with the stress of things anymore. But I know that if he would give me one more shot, I would do my absolute best to keep him happy and avoid the fights at all cost!!! Another detail I will add is that even though we have an apartment, I am not staying their through the night, I only come and go if he is not there and at work because I have no place to take my things to at the time being. We also work together so it is probably more difficult for him to even have opportunity to miss me and really think about me being completely out of his life. Right now, I finally stopped having my meltdowns in front of him, i’m trying to show him that I can act like an adult and keep it together with confidence so that we can still be friends. I’m trying to be that girl that he was originally attracted to in the first place. Please help me.
All you can do for now is be a friend.. Be that person you were at the beginning.. When at work try not to be around him that might make him miss you.. You can also just be there simply if he needs you.. Try being the one where he can go to if he needs to but don’t be persistent in your attempts to get him back.. Act nonchalant around him and maybe he will re-think everything.. Best of luck.. I know this is hard.. Best of luck..
how to get my ex-boyfriend back?
i love him still & he once "loved" me. i know he still cares, but it seems like he is always trying to make me jealous by talking about other girls. it really does make me jealous. he’s an expert at that. can you help me? should i try to make him jealous back, if so, what makes you the most jealous? just please help me. i’ve been ignoring him for the past couple weeks to make him seem like i don’t care about him, but truth be told. i love him so much & it’s killing me not to talk to him.
If youve made it a couple of weeks, keep going.. it gets easier. Cause if hes your ex, and still doing this jealous thing and talkin to other girls he needs to remain your ex. Its always easier to take an ex back than to get over it.. but then you just end up in worst shape than the before because it wont last the 2nd time either. If he wanted to be with you, and was into you, then the other girl things would not be an issue. Its gonna hurt.. its supposed to… but youre gonna need to let this one go. Find somebody who deserves you.
How do I get my ex back?
My ex broke up with me, but a couple weeks later text me saying he wanted to be friends. I said I’d talk to him about it the next day in class, but he finished his exam before me and left before I could get a word. A week later I e-mailed him saying it took me awhile to get back to him b/c I was still upset and trying to think of what to say. I said I felt awkward being friends and needed time, but we could try and see if we can be friends. He never responded and now we sit in class like 2 people who never met before. How do I get him back in my life? I don’t want to ask why he never responded b/c I don’t want to look bad!
Is it my fault we’re not talking anymore since I should’ve responded sooner?
Don’t try to get him back. It’s going to hurt you more in the long run, and it’s going to hurt him too. Just give it some time– if you don’t see him as often, the pain will go away. IT’s quite unlucky that you guys are in the same class, but there will be a time where you won’t see him all the time. Everything’s going to be okay. People forgive and forget with time. And you’ll find someone who’s worth your time, and who will respond to you when you have something to say. Just leave your ex be.
How do i get my ex boyfriend back when he has a new girlfriend?
My ex boyfriend and me dated for 14mos. things were going really good until he told me he wanted to take a break and that we could be friends with benefits. And now a couple weeks later he has a new girlfriend. so i don’t know what i should do. i mean i love him and i just need a little help as to what to do. should i wait for him or just move on?
Hey,
Ok first of all, you need to remind him of what he was attracted to in the first place, I mean, he obviously liked you if you were dating for 14 months, maybe things have changed a bit and you just need to "refresh" his memory.
Of course, you should be subtle about this, I mean, you’re just trying to remind him of what a great "catch" you are, if you know what I mean but do it in a way that he won’t realise you’re actually trying to.
It sounds a little complicated, however, it’s actually not hard. Check out the link below for a better explanation…
