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I KNOW ITS LONG, BUT PLEASE HELP….

Basically, I was @ a party, and my ex was there. I completly ignored him the entire time. I was talking/dancing with all his friends(who i knew from before) & i walked by him about 5 times & didn’t even look @ him. (tho i KNOW he was always looking at me) and then there was a point when i turned back and looked at him and he was just sitting down, looking really upset and pissed off. Then I just left the party and came home. It was probably an hour after I got home….he called me. He was saying that "I cant beleive you were dancing with my friend the whole time, and you didn’t even come and talk to me, what did i do to deserve this? Seeing you dance and talk to all my friends and not even say hey to me? that really pissed me off" and i told him that "if you wanted to talk to me soo badly, why didnt u come to me" and he said that "i was but then i heard u were upset that i was there, so i thought u wud walk away from me, but i still cant beleive you would do this, i wanted to talk to you, but you kept leaving, i didn’t know what to do, and the night just ended really badly for me" then he we talked some more and at the end he said "Ill talk to you more often now, call or or on facebook, so this doesnt happend anymore another time"

NOW…HE actually DID talk to me. I had left a status on facebook saying "im frustrated" or whatever…but it was about something else. SO…..He chatted me, and he asked me "why are you frustrated" and I told him it is because of whatever reason it was….then after I said that, he was just like….not as talkative….i mean we kept talking but barely saying stuff….SO, like, what is it? did he EXPECT me to say "im frustrated cause of you, or cause of this situation" or WHAT? Because why else would he ask, and then AFTER he asked, he wouldnt continue the convo as much??
One of my friends said he probably is frustrated HIMSELF and he just thought that I was too….and when he found out it was something else, he just kind of felt awkward…..<< IS SHE RIGHT ABOUT THAT??

DO YOU THINK THERE IS A CHANCE HE MIGHT WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER???
EVENTHOUGH HE HASNT CONTACTED ME TODAY….SO IDK? DO U THINK HE DOES?

if you want to get back with him, then you might have to contact him…he does not want to get rejected by you

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Hi guys,

My girlfriend left me on Sunday.

I cant avoid her as she is my rowing coach and i train 6 times a week. My plan was to just leave her alone to contact me if and when, act polite and fun when around her but ignore the fact we were in a relationhip etc….just act like we have just met, and just not text her etc.

Last night at training i bumped into her and we both just said Hi and went about our business. Later on i got a jokey text about halloween…a group text but its still communication. I was then on facebook last night and she came online. After 5 minutes or so she initiated some conversation- we had a bit of banter and then i made my excuses and left after about 15 minutes.

I then emailed her the biggest mistake ever:

"Hey trouble,

Just wanted to let you know I am going to unlink us on facebook for a bit. I don’t want to over complicate things at the moment- we’ll see each other at the club and you have my email and my number when you want to chat/ annoy me x"

The convo that followed was a whole load of pain!:

-Ok don’t see why u need to do that as that only makes things awkward! Your choice. X

-Not awkward at all Hun, absolutely no reason for things to be awkward. There’s just no need for it at the mo. You have my number X

-There is reason to be awkward when u start doing things like that. Not being funny but if your doing things like that its just gonna cause things to be awkward when they don’t need to be. X

- I don’t see why it’s causing things to be awkward….? I don’t feel like anything is awkward between us…I don’t see any need for things to be awkward? I’m not deleting you forever I’m just letting things calm down a bit…We will still see each other and text whenever we want. I’m not the biggest fan of facebook anyway…x

- Well it does from my point of view. In that case u may as well delete my number!! If there is no awkwardness why delete it in the first place.Sorry I just don’t understand. U making things turn awkward

- Ok hun- I won’t delete it, I didn’t think you would mind as we don’t really talk on there much anymore anyway. I won’t delete it

- Do what you wanna! X

I then re-added her as a friend but she has not accepted, and i know from a friend that she has been online this morning. All I have done now is cut off a channel of communication, a main one we used in the first pace. And pushed her away. I need to know how to bring this back. Either:

- Do i just continue as have been doing? Just leave her alone to contact me if and when, act polite and fun when around her but ignore the fact we were in a relationhip etc….just act like we have just met, and just not text her etc, and hope she will accept in the end…..

OR

-Do i send a message along the lines of: "Hey, sorry about last night. I didn’t mean to make anything seem awkward between the two of us…as you said there was no reason for any awkwardness at all. I just thought i should give you some space, but looking back on it that was a stupid idea. I have re-added you on facebook and would like to be "friends" on there again if you want to accept.X"…………and then just leave her be and continue as i have been doing so….

Advice please. I really like this girl and know that if i can get her comfortable around me again i can go some way towards getting her back as we have alot of fun.

P.s- she left me because i got too intense. Hence why last night was stupid as i just need to let go and relax, not DELETE HER AS A FRIEND ON FACEBOOK and thats just so dramatic to her i guess.

HELP!
new text: "Hey, sorry about last night. I didn’t mean to make anything seem awkward between the two of us…as you said there is no reason for any awkwardness at all. To be honest I don’t really know why I suggested it…was so dramatic and pointless lol. I have re- added you on facebook and would like to be "friends" on there again if you want to accept X"
Thanks guys- guess i am trying to work out whether if i send this message it constitutes me still being intense. Or whether i should just drop it and act like it never happened when i see her tonight or tomorrow…just be polite, talkative, fun, smiley, and hope that because of that she will go home and accept my friend request.

x

Hey Gareth……Stop !! Don’t send that text !!

Hope it’s not too late…

She broke up with you and your apologizing for un-linking her on Facebook?? No way….you have your head screwed on here, not her.

You are doing all the right things here except you never should have sent that email. You should have just unlinked her.

The reason it sounds like she broke up with you is because you became too needy (or as you put it too intense). Notice in the act of pulling away from her, ie unlinking from Facebook that pulled her towards you. If she didn’t really care about you she never would have reacted that way.

Stick with your original plan:

"My plan was to just leave her alone to contact me if and when, act polite and fun when around her but ignore the fact we were in a relationhip etc….just act like we have just met, and just not text her etc."

You are a rare guy with a plan after a breakup. Most guys do just the opposite and become even more emotional, needy and clingy when their girlfriend has broken up with them. Then they can’t understand why their girlfriend pushes them even farther away.

Go back to the way you first were when you two met. Strong in body and mind and independent. That’s the guy she fell in love with. Not "Mr. Intense".

The best thing I ever read about the mind of a woman came from a psychologist named Matt Huston. He basically is a professional pickup artist and knows what women look for in a guy…..if you want to check it out, below is a review…..

Definitely don’t send that sappy text message apologizing to her for wanting to become more independent from her.

Good luck!

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Hi, So we broke up about 3 months ago and completely stopped talking about a month ago. She has recently tried to talk to me a little bit. I would ignore her at first but about a week ago i responded but acted as if i was over her. I said something like "just friends" and she said "so your over me?" so i answered with "isnt that what you wanted: and she said "i guess." A few days went by and i thought i would have heard from her but didnt. She was leaving for Nicaragua with her church to build houses on Saturday so on friday afternoon i just IM’ed her to say have a good trip and we talked a little while then i said i had to go. Later that night she IM’ed me and we talked some more and i told her that we should talk when she gets back because i know things between us havent been exactly comfortable recently and she said "yes, thats fine" She has been gon for just about a week now and comes back on sunday night. I want nothing more then to get back together with this girl. We were together for a year and for the she has recently tried to talk to me numerous times in the last two weeks. I really miss her and love her and want to know if it sounds like were on the road to getting back together and what i can do to get her back in my arms. She was my first love and i really really really want her back. Anything Helps Thank you

P.S- i spent a lot of time trying to get her back right after we broke up, so then i just kinda took it easy and stopped talking to her for a while and i guess she go the point. I went back to therapy for this girl and made some serious changes that i needed to make in order to make our relationship work. I just want the shot to show her how much i have improved. How do i get her to agree to giving me that one shot i need? I just dont want to act like im overdooing anything.

P.P.S- She came home yesterday and we talked for a tiny bit online which was really nice but i had to go and she pointed out a convo i had with this other girl on facebook in school, what should i do, and what does this all mean?

Well, she probably still has feelings for you but cant decide if she wants to get back together with you. She was jealous of the girl you were talking with so that’s a good sign. I would just continue to take it easy with her like you have been doing. Don’t act toooo eager but show her that you still have some feelings for her. It sounds like ya’ll broke up and are still on good terms so you definitely have a shot

good luck!

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