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How do you win a Scorpio ex boyfriend back?
Say you went out with a Scorpio guy for like, 2 months. Even though it’s a short relationship, you two seem to like each other a whole lot. Things started to get rocky when his unemployment was brewing financial trouble in his life and he gets insecure over the fact that he couldn’t drive you around in his car (his car breaks down) anymore. So he decides to dump you, to your surprise.
How do you win a Scorpio ex back when the break up isn’t about abuse, cheating or incompatibility, but basically "bad timing"?
coming from a scorpio, i would get involved in a relationship if i feel stable and worthy enough to make my girl happy. hearing your situation, i think you should stick by him however give him a bit of space but stick by him as a true and honest friend. make him feel happy and as if nothing between you two has changed because of his bad economic situation and you two splitting up. good luck and only time will tell. 
How do you win back an ex-bf who dumped you for bad timing?
Say you went out with a guy for like, 2 months. Even though it’s a short relationship, you two seem to like each other a whole lot. Things started to get rocky when his unemployment was brewing financial trouble in his life and he gets insecure over the fact that he couldn’t drive you around in his car (his car breaks down) anymore. So he decides to dump you, to your surprise.
How do you win an ex back when the break up isn’t about abuse, cheating or incompatibility, but basically "bad timing"?
He must feel real bad that he can’t afford to date. Keep in touch and let him know that you still want to be friends. Seeing you said that you "seem to like each other a whole lot" you can still do things together that are free, like going to the park or for a walk. Maybe he’s depressed and needs a friend to talk to. His life will straighten out and he’ll be back to his old self again!
My girlfriend & I mutually broke up. right afterwards, she showed signs of wanting to get back together?
My girlfriends and I mutually broke up after a month and a half together. She recently realized that she isnt ready for a long term relationship. She said she need to see a therapist & needed to love herself before she can love someone else. She did say we can continue to have sex. She also said once she is ready, we could get back together if i am still single. We also agreed to be friends.
Right after she told me we agreed to be friends,she grabbed me, kissed me and and said i had to stay in her life. I asked her if she would be more comfy talking out side the car. We went outside the car and we made out for a bit and we also were hugging for a little while. This was all after we broke up.
What does this behavior indicate?
If you guys are young then immaturity.
If you guys are adults and not young teenagers then she’s either a player or wants to see what else is out there before committing.
~~Just my opinion because I can’t think of any other reason why she’d still want to kiss, hug and have sex; without being in a relationship with the person she wants to do all those things with~~
I would do anything to get my ex boyfriend back, please help.?
This is really long but please, please bear with me.
My boyfriend broke up with me six months ago. He told me he just wasnt feeling it and he hadnt been feeling it for a while and that he wasnt ready for a relationship. We were together for nearly a year and it was a pretty intense relationship. It moved very fast from the start (meeting each others family/friends etc) but that was his doing, not mine. He got very serious very fast and despite me being a bit wary of relationships, I went with it because I felt such a strong connection to this guy (I know it sounds cheesy but I really felt fireworks when I first laid eyes on him in a bar and couldnt take my eyes off him and the feeling was mutual). We had a lot in common and had great fun together (chemistry was great too!) and spent a good deal of time together. The problem was, as were both very sociable and outgoing, most of that time was spent doing group stuff; either with his friends and family or mine. It was the only thing we ever fought about. I wanted to spend time alone together, which we rarely did, and he always promised that hed make the effort which he would for a week or two after our talk but then things would go back to group stuff. I should probably point out that whenever these discussions arose, I would calmly explain that alone time was important to me and he would agree that we would spend more time together. There was never any shouting or nastiness. The last two months together, he sometimes made stupid comments that would hurt my feelings; nothing vindictive or mean, just thoughtless. I didnt say anything until something really bad happened in my life and he wasnt really there. I got the obligatory hug and the Im sorry but that was it. I called him on it one night and he said I dont want you to rely on me in case I break up with you. I suppose that should have been my clue that all wasnt right with him but I was so shocked at his comment that I didnt call him on it for a week. When I did, we sat down and had a big talk. I told him how much he had hurt me and how I was feeling taken for granted. I repeated back to him what he had said to me and he was genuinely horrified (I could see it on his face). I dont think he realized exactly how bad what he had said was till then. Anyway, I asked him if he wanted to break up because I had been feeling so taken for granted and he emphatically told me no. He promised he would make more of an effort (even thanked a friend of mine at a party the following night for calming me down (I was considering drastic action) and said Im not going to screw up again) and I think he did – in his own way but nothing changed. A month later, the same issue came up on the phone one night and I had got bad news that day so I was pretty drained and didnt even have the energy to put up a fight. He said he didnt understand why the alone time was that important to me and I said but the fact that it is important to me should be enough to which he said it wasnt to him and he didnt understand it. Then he said if he wasnt making me happy then maybe we should break up. I asked him if that was what he wanted and he said no. We batted back and forth for ages, neither one of us wanting to break up and getting more and more upset (both of us were crying, not angry). Eventually I asked him if he cared about me enough to make it work and he said he didnt know. I told him I guess thats my answer. I told him I would drop back his car (he had given me his old car to drive when mine broke down beyond repair and wanted me to keep it but I had insisted the car was just on loan until I got my own and kept it in his name) and he told me to keep the car. I told him I didnt want the damn car, that it was him I wanted because I loved him (that was the first time I had said it). He was stunned and said what? to which I replied I love you. There, I said it. He was shocked and said he wasnt there yet. When he asked if he could see me, I told him it was too painful and that I was going to end the call. Crying (he was too), I said goodbye and hung up.
He texted me the next day to ask me if I was okay and said last night was like some bad dream. I replied that I wasnt okay and I was hurt that I obviously meant so little to him that we broke up over something so small. He said something like it wasnt small and we broke up because we werent working/couldnt agree (I cant remember clearly) and I cant even remember what I texted back (it wasnt mean but it wasnt nice either). He didnt reply. Five days later, I was so miserable that I texted him and told him I missed him and if the offer to meet up still stood, could we meet up and talk. He replied straight away saying hed wanted to call but had thought I wouldnt want to speak to him. We arranged to meet up and I thought we were going to work things out but he wanted to give me back my stuff and talk because he felt bad about the way
in most cases, the person who broke the bond is the only person who can rebuild the bridges .. no matter how hard you try or how much it eats you up inside by being apart. They have to realise that you ARE "the one"
Compromise to Get Him Back or Bolt?
Dr. Neder:
I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months. We were inseparable we spend loads of time together. We get along fantastic our families love each other. There is one big problem. I had to move back to the town I’m from which is where he lives. I noticed that he didn’t want me in his home when he isn’t home.
He stated that he trusted me just not used to being in a relationship seriously with someone. Says I’m his first real relationship and he doesn’t want anyone snooping through his things. (an insult at best) So when I stay over and he leaves 5 or 6 am sometimes on the weekends I have to get up and leave.
I needed to stay with him for a week before my apartment was ready and I had to wait for him to come home from work before I got indoors. Some nights I was in school so it was ok, but as you should know it took a toll on me. I finally moved into my own place.
The last straw was when I spent the night over he didn’t have to work but woke me up in the cold and rain to take him to the Laundromat. He knows he can drive my car to do something like that but he wanted me to come because of his issues. I have let this man use my car to visit his sick mom in the hospital but had to stop because of his unfairness. I feel bad but my car has nothing to do with him seeing his mom.
Anyway once I took him to the Laundromat I got so pissed at him (add the cold rain and me looking a mess early in the morning) that I left. Then I thought about it and went back to get him. He was upset and said someone else was going to pick him up. I met him at the house and asked for my things, but he ignored me. The next week I told him I just wanted my spare remote car key. He stated “I don’t understand you I’ve been working hard to give you a good x-mas and you do this!” I know its true because he always buys me gifts and already started x-mas shopping for me.
I responded that I love the gifts but my dignity and self respect means more to me. He said he’d give it to me on 12/09 his next day off. On Monday 12/8 I got a text from him saying that he can’t give me the key on the 9th it has to be the 14 because he has to work, which is crap because we’re together all the time work or no work. I suggested the mail once but I just let it go and told him whenever he’s ready is fine.
I feel so deeply for him but I feel undignified when made to leave his house it is such a big inconvenience for me. I don’t need a key and full access. I respect his privacy but I have to respect myself. I’m prepared to break up but I don’t want to.
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Hello!
I know exactly why he’s doing this.
There are a few so-called “experts” that recommend this very specific thing. He’s been listening to their “advice” and doesn’t realize that for them, it’s about entertainment – NOT practical life coaching. These entertainers (and one in particular) use this shtick to address their target markets and do so extremely well, I might add. The problem is that it’s just that: shtick. Many guys don’t get that and actually buy into it 110%.
I have to chuckle a little about this however. No offense, but let’s be absolutely realistic here: over time, if you absolutely knew that you wouldn’t be caught and especially considering your current insecurities (probably somewhat reasonable, I might add), wouldn’t you snoop a little?
Of course you would. Every woman would; so at least on that front, he’s right. My bigger concern is with his need for absolutely privacy – and his unreasonable demands to get it.
Here’s what you need to do: Sit him down and have a talk about this. Explain to him that in order for your relationship to grow (rather than decline) he’s going to have to get over this fear. Yes, you understand it and you’re not going to discuss whether it’s reasonable or not; simply that normal, healthy couples don’t have these sorts of issues between them. You want to have a normal, healthy, mature relationship and none of these expectations on his part are any of that. What that ultimately translates to is that if you and he can’t come to an understanding about this, you’re going to have to find someone else that wants the same things you do.
Remember: you’re not his counselor, you’re his girlfriend. You’re not here to make up for his past insecurities or whether his mommy hugged him too little or too much. He’s an adult now and has to deal with adult things if he wants an adult life. You can’t make him do this, but he needs to open his eyes about it and realize what he loses – and will continue to lose – if he doesn’t get this problem handled.
If he can’t do that, you’re going to need to reconsider what you want and if you can get it through this relationship.
If you might even show him this letter from an unbiased (huh?) third party if you think it’ll open his eyes a little wider.
Best regards
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