how do i get my ex back even though we dont talk and he hates me?
i dated this guy, lets call him Frank, we dated fer a few days over a month,i was 16 and he was 18. im currently 17 and he is still 18. he was my first everything, from hand holding to kissing to sex. then he randomly became mean so i couldn’t take it and broke up with him. its been about 8 months since our breakup and i have a new amazing boyfriend who treats me like gold. but all the time i randomly start thinking about my ex and i talk about him a lot, even to my boyfriend. me and ‘frank" never talk. and if we do, he is saying something mean (like im ugly and he never loved me) but he used to always say i was beautiful and stuff. he has a girlfriend now. and ive seen him once these past 8 months, and when i saw him he kept looking at me. my friends say he probably still loves me and wants me back. but it doesn’t show because he hasn’t said one nice word to me since the breakup. another bad thing is that about a month after me and him broke up, i dated his brother to get him jealous, and frank forced him to break up with me! i wanna know either, how to get him back, how to figure out why he hates me, if he still loves me.
its been 8 months. im dying here.
i need answers!
You betrayed him by dating his brother. It is something you Never do, ever. He is hurt by that and probably loved you more than you will ever know. I think if you really want to set the record straight with him you should write him a letter and tell him why you dated his brother. You did it to see if he really loved you and to make him jealous but there was nothing to it at all and whether or not you ever see Frank again that you want him to know he will ALWAYS be your first love.
Then give it some time, as long as it takes. I guarantee he will be back one day and forgive you. Meanwhile enjoy your new guy and don’t worry so much about this. Frank still thinks you are beautiful and will always love you. He said those ugly things because he is hurting and he was looking at you because he loves you still. When you see him again, just smile and maybe wink at him. He will think about it. Don’t talk to him just smile. Makes him wonder if he is now with the right girl. Good luck but he’ll be back.
Okay if he loved you he would be with you. If he loved you he wouldn’t be mean to you. If he loved you he wouldn’t be with someone else. If he loved you he wouldn’t insult you. If he loved you he would try to see you.
I think you have your answers you just don’t want to hear them. Why drive yourself insane with this crap. Waste of a good life. Break your infatuation like the bad habit it is and find something fun and satisfying to focus on.
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Girl, make the best of it with your new boyfriend since he is so amazing and leave Frank alone. He might still care about you but he can’t trust you.
You left too much mud in your own backyard(going out with his brother to make him jealous) and this sealed it for him. Learn from this and grow up or stop dating until you know how to make a relationship work.
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You have no idea how much your life is going to change over the next 10 years. Your taste in clothes, music, and relationships will surprise you. Get on with your life and the guys will come crawling out of the woodwork.
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You dated his brother??? Gee, I wonder why he doesn’t like you anymore…. Your an immature little girl who should not be in any relationship for many years. If he is smart, he will stay as far away from you as he possibly can. Get your education and learn to take care of yourself.
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You really hurt him by dating his brother. You really broke his heart. He is hurt. Acknowledge to him that you did him wrong. Tell him that you love him, and that you are sorry for hurting him like that. He hates you, my dear, because you betrayed him. You stabbed him in the back by dating his brother. How would you feel if you were Frank? Think about things from his point of view.
There may be no hope for the relationship to work again. Keep your self respect, and your dignity. Tell Frank that you are sorry. He is being verbally abusive to you, but under the circumstances, can you blame him? He is just hurt tremendously.
Tell Frank that you regret those bad decisions. Tell him that you want to make things right. Ask him what you can do to make things right again. He probably does still love you, but he has been hurt badly.
Good luck, and God bless.
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what does this have to do with marriage and divorce? do your homework and clean your room. smh
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You betrayed him by dating his brother. It is something you Never do, ever. He is hurt by that and probably loved you more than you will ever know. I think if you really want to set the record straight with him you should write him a letter and tell him why you dated his brother. You did it to see if he really loved you and to make him jealous but there was nothing to it at all and whether or not you ever see Frank again that you want him to know he will ALWAYS be your first love.
Then give it some time, as long as it takes. I guarantee he will be back one day and forgive you. Meanwhile enjoy your new guy and don’t worry so much about this. Frank still thinks you are beautiful and will always love you. He said those ugly things because he is hurting and he was looking at you because he loves you still. When you see him again, just smile and maybe wink at him. He will think about it. Don’t talk to him just smile. Makes him wonder if he is now with the right girl. Good luck but he’ll be back.
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