Defining Your Relationship

Defining Your Relationship

Every relationship you are planning to take serious and deep should begin with friendship. But often, people do not know when to move from the level of friendship to a more committed stage of courtship. This is a potential source of heartache, since people can feel uncelebrated and unloved at this stage. E veryone knows when love and attention exceeds the friendship level. If you do not respond to it by either encouraging or discouraging it, you will end up wronging the other person. Defining your relationship helps you put things in the right perspective, straighten things out, focus better and be more committed. Courtship is the perfect time for couples to discover things about each other and are not under any obligation to get married if they do not find the relationship desirable. This does not of course mean that courtship should be taken lightly. People aren’t cars that you can drive; they have hearts that do break. Whether you are a man or a woman, you should feel free to ask questions when your feelings for someone go beyond friendship. Some women shy away from asking questions, especially in the African society where women are easily judged. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking questions, it only helps the relation to get deeper level courtship. Now though courtship is not the same as marriage but it does imply exclusive commitment to one another, and give you opportunity to ask the other person questions you would have thought inappropriate if you were just friends.