Win an Ex Back – How to Decide Whether to Get Together With an Ex
Win an Ex Back – How to Decide Whether to Get Together With an Ex
How to win an ex back? Is it always the best decision?
You have already broken up with your ex and the next thing you want to do is to get back together with your ex. However, you are not really sure whether you are making the right decision. So, how can you decide?
Well, the first question you might want to ask yourself is how long have you broken up with your ex.
This is a very important question. First, if you have just broken up with your ex for only a few days, you don’t want to come up with a decision so quickly. Most likely, you are now in a state of emotional turmoil and confusion. You are not likely to make the right decision during this period of time.
What you should do now is to take a break and allow yourself time to heal your emotions. You should also avoid seeing your ex during this period if possible. Most experts will advise you that you will want to wait for at least one month before you contact your ex again.
Personally, I think this is a very good advice in most situations. By not contacting your ex during this one month, you will have sufficient time to cool down and think through things. You will be able to take yourself out of the relationship and look at it in a more objective manner.
But what if you have already broken up with your ex for a very long period of time?
Well, there are two important questions that you will want to ask yourself.
First, do you still love your ex? Since you want to win your ex back, it seems obvious that you still love your ex but that is not necessary true. If you want to win your ex back because you think you need him/her and can’t live without him/her, then you seriously need to reconsider your decision.
The next question you want to ask yourself is whether your ex still wants to get back together or he/she has already moved on. If he/she has already moved on, perhaps it is also time for you to move on too.
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PLEASE read! How long should it take to decide whether or not you want to get back with someone?
My ex and I decided to part mutually but still are friends and he has said eventually he wants to get back together. I guess he felt our communication issues as well as the fact that he isnt working has led him to believe time apart will aid us in rebuilding. Well we dated for 5 months, it has now been nearly 2 months since we broke up. How much longer will it take? Should I wait for him and remain single or no? I consider myself patient but I refuse to be a fool waiting forever…
I am so confused. He acts like were a couple in front of our friends and always wants to hang out he even slipped up and french kissed me a week ago then later said he didnt regret kissing me he wanted to do more b/c he is very attracted to me physically but thinks its not right since we arent an item I enjoyed the kiss myself, I love him but I rather not set myself up to be hurt or taken advantage of. The friendship has mostly been good we have bonded better and argue much less. However, I have made efforts to be open with my feelings in some aspects where he hasnt.
Also he was mad I didnt tell him I did date someone else briefly after we split. Why be mad? We werent together. He said its not the fact I saw another person he could care less, its just not informing him earlier on etc of what went on in detail. That bugged me out. He was mad at me he called me yesterday I didnt call back. I dont know I feel like he doesnt know how strong my feelings are even though I tell him time and time again. He keeps saying if he knew me longer he would be more open to opening up to me because he only opens up to ppl he knows for a longer time span. WTF? Lol, we met last Summer. He asked me out after 1 month of dating. It hurts, I cant get him out of my head either. He is 24, I’m 23. Please help.
Wow a lot to read here but you know what I think instead of asking such a general question how long will it take? Try asking yourself what was the REAL reason for the relationship ending? What have you or your ex done to try to solve the issues that the both of you faced in the relationship? You have made it clear that you really care deeply for this guy. I think he knows this and that is why he continues to desire being around you wanting to hang out and so forth. He is also trying to straighten out his own life, and maybe he feels once he has certain things in order he can focus on you.
You said he isnt working, if he supports himself this is a big part of how he identifies himself. You have asked several questions about this guy so apparently he likes keeping busy. Believe me, he misses you but the time he isnt spending with you is also time that can be used to be productive in his job hunt. It is not your fault that things are confusing. But readjust your attitude about the situation make the friend thing work to your benefit. As for the kiss, he is strongly attracted to you regardless of the situation. Learn to let it work in your favor. Flaunt your beauty without making it the only asset you offer. Show him your mind, your visions and creativity. You can use this time to help you do your own thing and that will attract him in another way. He is very careful not to be heart broken himself which is why he was upset. He may have said he didnt care but he does or he would not have made your date an issue. In his defense, it will appear as though you had something to hide. I say, do not confront him on the issue because you will appear naggish or even needy. Instead, give him his space. Make him desire you by having your own shine. I am sure that drew him in originally, you are different unique and special. You have to get yourself at your best as well and it will make him want to be a better man. Do not appear so negative or weak instead show your strong positive and confident side to him even in doubt. Play it cool, he knows that you probably attract tons of other guys and is a bit insecure that you have elected to move on so quickly. Hopefully he will not being it up any further. Diffuse all conflict in a mature way.
As for him saying he didnt know you long enough idk what he means exactly. Perhaps he means in general he does not open up to ppl he has not known for a certain amount of time. This may be an issue. You need to ask him specifically what he means by this. His loyalty lies with friends and family. I mean obviously he quickly chose to be with you for a reason, the not opening up thing is either an excuse which is bs or this is really how he is…you have to decide if you are willing to accept that aspect of his ways. Express your concern of his lack of openness, his indecisiveness, and way of handling conflict but do it in a non threatening way.
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