How do you get an Ex back?
The mistakes in the relationship were mostly mine – his main mistake was waiting and bottling it all up until it built up to resentment. I think we need some time apart, but I know he still loves me and the main problem is that he doesn’t see us together long term because of the problems I had in the relationship. I know if I showed him I can/have changed things could work out for the better. I’m just not sure how to go about this after having some time apart. He feels horrible right now for breaking my heart, he accidentally said he loved me last night which gave me hope and made me realize that if I could I’d do anything to get him back. Right now he feels that his feelings of resentment won’t change and that we’d just end up broken up again and hurting again. Any tips and advice would be much appreciated. I know I’ll get a lot of "ex’s should stay ex’s" but this is my first long-term relationship, his second, and I now know what I did wrong. I only wish I had known not to do it while I was doing it. Thanks.
I could be mean and cranky at him for no reason. He broke up with me and I didn’t expect it and it hurt. He broke my heart because I wasn’t always as nice as I should have been and I picked on him at times. I hurt him too and he hurt me. He’s really upset because he still cares about me and he knows this is hurting me. There’s really not much more to say.
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People have regrets for a reason. They stay regrets. It’s easy to say I love you, but it’s harder to back up. Back out now, while you still got a heart.
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We often beat ourselves up over relationships that don’t work out and wish we could have done things differently. This is a normal part of the break up process. Sometimes things don’t work out not because there is a lack of love but because the 2 of you are oil & water, unwittingly pushing each others buttons. I get that you really want this to work but you also have to prepare yourself for the fact it wont. Best you can do is keep the lines of communication open and see if he changes his mind. The ball is really in his court since he says he doesn’t have faith in your future together. If he really does love you and wants to give this another change, time will tell. If I were you, I would put a time limit on waiting. Don’t let this linger on for years because you can’t accept the harsh reality. I’ve been where you are & it’s tough. Good luck.
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Well, you mentioned having some time apart, and he probably needs that now more than you. However, you need to be completely honest with him. I would call him or meet with him, with no expectations, just to talk. Tell him exactly how you feel about him…if you love him, tell him. If you want to stay with him (and if he want you in his life), tell him. If you’re willing to do what it takes to make things right (including giving him some time to think about it), then tell him.
But, if you tell him these things, you better mean it.
Once you do, tell him he can talk to you any time about what he’s feeling or thinking, and that you hope he’ll be able to be honest with you and lay things out…what you did wrong, how and why it hurt him, etc. You better be willing and ready to listen, to hear what he says and to not make excuses.
Then, tell him when he’s ready, to call you. Then get out of the way. Stay away from other men, don’t share any of this with anyone but the most trusted people in your life…in fact, the fewer the better.
That’s how I would handle it. It’s up to him after that.
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You seem to have said a lot but told us nothing
So we must guess most of it ???
The mistakes were yours
He feels horrible for breaking your heart ?
But you were the one who made the mistakes
So why is it his fault ?
His previous girlfriend may have done the same
So he cant trust you right now
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tell him what you told us
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I totally relate to what you´re going through, except that in my case i have accepted that the reason i made so many mistakes during the relationship was that i wasn´t in love with him the way that i should´ve been in order to not hurt him and make those mistakes.
If you are truly sure you do love him with all your heart, and if he loves you too (it sounds like he does) then ask him to give the both of you a chance.
Explain to him that if you want to be together, you should work on the relationship together, not appart!!
It sounds like he is leaning toward "you go fix whatever it was that made you make those mistakes" and "I´ll go work on my resentment towards you".
That could work, but that could also end up splitting you up. I am all for "working on issues TOGETHER"!
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A woman advice and if he doesn’t have kids with you , he is not into you. let go! You need to understand if he wants to let go it has to happen! You are a beautiful young woman and you will meet a nice guy that will treat you great. I learned from my past years ago that an ex moved on and all is cool and so have I. You can too because you believe in yourself and be true to yourself.
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Break ups do hurt. All you can do is to take it one day at a time. The relationship obviously had problems and if you both were unable to work them out then and he is not willing to work on them then all you can do is to move on. I know it hurts and him being sad that he hurt you is understandable, after all you both had love at one time. This does not mean you can never find someone else because you will. The only advice I can give to you is to get into a support group of people who will be able to help you get through this very difficult time. Then do good things in your life. Doing good brings about good feelings. Live your life right everyday as a testimonial to how you have changed for the better. People and even ex’s notice when you live right and do right. My wishes are that everything will come your way the way you want it. Good luck to you!
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I agree with Joe … promises of ”I have changed” don’t go down well unless the other person feels / sees that you have definitely changed
He would kick himself if he took you back but nothing has been fully resolved – partial change isn’t enough especially if you have let him down / trust has gone but also if he took you back and you messed up again you would be kicking yourself more than him even – To be given a chance and then mucking it up again forever
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I was basically in the same situation. Before you do anything, Check out this website. It has many info that tells you exactly what to do to get your ex back. It saved my five year relationship. Hope that helps.
Website:
http://getexbacksecret.blogspot.com
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Theres a blog with some really useful information about how to do this, written by people who have been there, and now help thousands of people in this situation, they know what they’re talking about. So check it out and it will help you GREATLY! I personally promise you that, I was in this situation and it helped me get my ex back within 3 weeks and I couldn’t be happier!!!
I hope everything works out for you and that you guys get back together and are happy again!
The blog is healthyrelationships10 dot blogspot dot com
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