How can I get my ex back?

My ex and I broke up a year ago.
We’ve stayed in contact since then but its been up and down.
Hes been with someone else for a while now, about 10 months. He got with her 3 weeks after it finished with us, he didn’t know her when we broke up. So I guess it was a rebound that stuck?
We talk regularly and we both initiate contact equally.
I’ve realised I’m still in love with him and want to get back together.
Without giving any more information, how do you think I could go about getting him back?
And please don’t say "move on" because thats not what I’m asking.

thanks

I’ll try an offer some advice and without a ‘move on’ among it.

There are some things that many girls do that end up blowing their chances with their ex, Try and avoid most if not all..

Trying to push it too far too soon. It’s natural to wonder about the nature of the relationship, “Did he want more? Or was this just a fling? What’s he thinking now?” But remember, you have an open line of communication with him right now, if you start pushing commitment, you could ruin your chances to take things further.

Yes, it’s true, many guys are scared of commitment; but just because they don’t want it now, doesn’t mean they don’t want it. Sometimes they just need time.

Sharing your feelings with him too early in this process or too much. Guys love their freedom and independence, no mysteries there. So when you announce that you love him, it often sets off a trigger that you might be the “clingy type.” Remember to try and remain casual.

It’s also worth mentioning that you can’t logically convince someone to fall in love with you. Falling in love is a process that happens outside the conscious mind ­ remember that. Which brings me to…

Being too available.You might think this is playing a mind game or
being manipulative, but putting your best side forward is also manipulative.

Why? Because it’s done to get a desirable outcome. This is simply a reminder to be who you were before you met the guy and continue to be that person.

Remember that your busy, interesting and fun life only has so much time for him, no matter how much you like him. And remember, guys love a challenge, so this actually works in your favor.

Not being yourself. Guys love confident women with a strong sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, women often try to guess how the man wants them to act and try to accommodate his mold, which leaves very little room for your own personality to shine. (And yes, guys do this too.) In other words, they love your strength. It’s very attractive.

Hope some of this helps. Good luck!