Can I get my ex back?
Okay, so my boyfriend (now ex) were together for almost a year. We moved really fast, got into the topic of children, planned how we would raise them, chose wedding rings, ect. Around our 6th month of dating, we started fighting often. Why we fought? Stupid things all the time. We were raised differently, I was sheltered and spoiled while he was raised to be independent and outdoorsy and do a lot with his hands. Also, I have an eating disorder that he always had a hard time dealing with. About two weeks ago, I mentioned that I needed more help with things and really wanted someone to talk to. He felt he couldn’t be that person and broke up with me. He says we’re not compatible and he can’t take the fighting. So now we’re staying friends. I wanna build the friendship we never had, get better with my eating (which I have been doing with his help now that he’s doing the whole friend thing). I’m hoping that if we build a really good friendship, get rid of the fighting and learn to actually have fun together he’ll ask me out again. I told him if we were to date again, I’d wanna start slow and from scratch and throw away the pass, the good and bad. A clean slate. I know he still loves me. Do you think if I play it cool he will come back to me? I’ve always been a nervous wreck.
By your own words, you are a "nervous wreck" and you "have an eating disorder". And you’re expecting your bf to somehow help you with your problems. He can’t.
If you want any chance of a successful relationship, you need to start going to counseling, and get yourself well. People with psychological illnesses, like you, tend not to do well in relationships.
Get your personal life together before doing anything, if it’s meant that your to get back together you will, if not, then you won’t.. That said, you have some things you need to deal with, that nervous wreck part of you, look into some self help or professional counseling before any more serious relationships..
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take it easy their is a chance you to can sort it after all he is still helping you and been your friend but you have to be their for him to.
your emotions will be all over if you have an eating disorder you should get help from a councilor this will help stabilize your moods and deal with your eating.
good luck.
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Fix yourself from within during this time. If you get that fixed, I bet the fighting and all that stuff slows down. Seek help and live life fully.
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By your own words, you are a "nervous wreck" and you "have an eating disorder". And you’re expecting your bf to somehow help you with your problems. He can’t.
If you want any chance of a successful relationship, you need to start going to counseling, and get yourself well. People with psychological illnesses, like you, tend not to do well in relationships.
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wow, i hope you are super hot because you sound like a train wreck that will make any husband of yours miserable. spoiled chicks are the worst.
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If he can’t handle you, he doesn’t deserve you. It sounds like you are blaming only yourself for everything. You need to get some pride and stand up for what you value. Tell him what you want, and if he is not up to it, kick his a&ss to the curb.
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iflmc,
Yes, based on your description, I believe you could get back together with your boyfriend. However, you need to approach this kind of carefully.
since you are going through some tough things (eating and the other stuff), I think you would benefit from a short communication break with him.
If you just try to stay friends, then chances are you’ll never be more than friends in the future. Don’t call him/see him for a few weeks and focus on yourself: Get help for your eating troubles and try to analyze why you were fighting so much with your ex. chances are, the conflicts can be stopped if you figure out their causes and really try to change yourself.
Stopping contact is important and will speed the process of getting back with him. Once you start seeing him again, hopefully you’ll have your issues worked out and it will really impress him: he’ll see that you can take care of yourself and really be impressed. It won’t make him take you back immediately, but it would be a huge step in the right direction.
One last note, if you’re going to follow through with this approach, then be sure that you’re keeping some social activities together: going out, seeing other friends, etc so that you fight off any depression that could come from not seeing him for a while.
Good luck! I’m sure you can do it! If you want a good free video explanation of this method, check out the site in my source.
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http://bringexbackblog.com