Tips for Getting Back Your Ex and Getting Through Breakup Pain
Tips for Getting Back Your Ex and Getting Through Breakup Pain
Just coming out of a breakup that wasn’t your idea can be a terrible thing to go through. It can seem like your heart’s about to tear itself out of your chest, it hurts so bad. The pain does lessen with time, though…although there are things you can do to speed up your recovery, as well as improve your chances of getting your ex back (if that’s what you want.)
First Step: Quit your ex cold turkey for about a month. Even if you still see each other in public settings that are unavoidable, like work or class, you should avoid being social with your ex. You may feel that it’s a dire need to quickly win your ex back by showering him or her with attention, but in truth this only makes it harder to get your ex back. A cool-down period of about a month is highly recommended, so as to give you time to get your life back together and get organized as well as for your ex to have a chance to miss you.
Second Step: It’s completely natural to feel pain over this breakup. I’d be shocked if it didn’t nearly cripple you, but there’s a difference between NEARLY crippling you and actually taking over your life and making it impossible to continue to live it properly. Letting your pain dominate and control you isn’t just going to ruin your life, it’s going to ruin your chances at getting your ex back. Step up and accept that you feel the pain, but refuse to allow it to keep you from living your life. Things will be difficult to enjoy for a while, but it’s essential that you not only maintain day-to-day function but that you thrive in it.
Third Step: Now’s the time to do all that self-improvement stuff you’ve been putting off. If you’ve been sighing over a few extra pounds whenever you look in the mirror, now’s the time to lose them. If your smile isn’t up to how you’d like it to be, get them straightened and a nice whitening kit from Wal-Mart. Update your wardrobe with all the currently fashionable attire, and take pride in looking your best. This not only helps you feel great about yourself, but it both distracts you from your pain and also makes you more attractive to your ex.
Fourth Step: Stay socially active. Going out with friends and having a good time may have to be forced because of how you’re feeling, but it’s a crucial part of the healing process. Hanging in the clubs and meeting people may at first seem counterproductive to your efforts of trying to get your ex back, but it actually helps. Not only does the attention from other people give you a confidence boost (after all, knowing people find you attractive fees good!), but if your ex either sees you or finds out about it through a mutual friend…well, it’s sure to make him or her take interest again.
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Strangest breakup in the world – Your opinions on what was up with this person?
So I got broken up with a few days ago…
I had to meet with him in his office and he got a call from his secretary that I was there (we met in a professional setting) and he sounded weird over the phone because he was really loud enough to hear from the phone as I was just standing there (almost panicky, nervous, didn’t know what to do with himself, mumbling and fumbling)…
So I didn’t know which room to go to so I asked one of the two secretaries what the room number was… And as she was telling me… she said that she had just seen him just a second ago standing in the door way looking at me (as if he was looking at me I guess to see me and how I looked or how I was before he saw me for the first time in his office – probably to avoid a reaction of seeing me and having an initial reaction – and then quickly ran back into his room).
So she told me the room number and when I got there he showed no emotion and acted like I a stranger (it was weird – like putting up a front of formality but he was so obvious that I could tell and even his voice sounded funny… with no inflections at all Not One… just saying things showing no emotion with his words). Then I caught him looking at me from head to toe when he didn’t think I was looking or could see him… And when I caught him he got scared and panicky (like he didn’t want to get caught). When I talked about a connection that I had to him… that was one of the small amount of times I saw him break through his stone-cold facade and show some emotion – sort of looking like he was feeling pain about it… like he wanted to cry or whatever else (really strong emotion). Then he continued to act stone-cold indifferent and when I said something to him in a cute sort of way (with me not really meaning to or thinking about it) did he light up and I caught him wanting to smile and engage in an exchange with me but he stopped. Then when we were both looking through the same book (cause we were discussing something) I slapped his hand away from the book in a cute way and he started fumbling again. And also… during the conversation he kept trying to get me to go to another professional setting (away from where we had met) so that I wouldn’t be around there anymore, for whatever reason.
Then when it was all over and I was leaving he was acting funny… He just kept trying to pretend that I didn’t exist… Like a facade or something… like purposefully trying to "shut me out" as if he wanted to pretend ever caring or knowing about me (but more in a panicky… "just pretend she doesn’t exist" sort of way… as if to close your eyes and you don’t see her sort of a way)…He just kept running away even though he was standing there…
When I went to shake his hand he acted REALLY WEIRD and acted shaky and panicky and really quickly only grabbed the Very Tips of my fingers (just on my nails) in order not to feel me or something… like trying not to touch me… and fast and very quickly and briefly shook my hand for about a second (literally a second or two while acting fumbling). He did this Really quickly and avoided eye contact with me (it was sort of funny and pathetic – cause that’s how he was coming off… it was sort of funny if it wasn’t really sad). Then we walked outside of his office and I tried to shake his hand again and he reacted funny and panicky, like he didn’t know what to do with himself and said (as if he didn’t know what to say) "Oh I have something on my hand" (he looked really pathetic, mumbling and fumbling)… So then he wouldn’t look at me so I gave him a good slap on the shoulder to say goodbye… and he started fumbling his words (like he didn’t know which way was right or left) and ran and barricaded himself into his office.
When I went back to see how he was reacting and knocked on his office door to say that I had forgotten something… He immediately opened the door, as if standing by the door the whole time, and said (in a fumbling way again) "What? No… there’s nothing there"… and quickly closed it (as if afraid and clumsy).
Why did he act like that? What was really up with him?
He sounds like he was kinda scared and nervous if you ask me..
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I did not read your question- it was too long. Leave this person alone and get on with your life.
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he’s a freak.
you need to sit him down and get him to tell you the whole story.
good luck.
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Assuming he’s not insane. He has some serious social issues. Best guess is he’s married and trying his first attempt at an affair. Being torn internally and showing it externally.
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First off, you’re really descriptive, and, nice job on that.
And, about that guy, maybe he already had a girlfriend but it was like a complicated relationship or something like he didn’t really know if she was his girlfriend or not.. :/, or maybe he’s just a weirdo like he seems to be from your description of him..And maybe he just doesn’t know how to approach you, and possibly thinks it’s weird to admit that he likes you.
That’s all i can come up with.. :l
hope i could help, and feel free to IM me or email me any time.
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Well, is he married or something and was this your first visit to his office? Obviously your presence made him uneasy for whatever reason.
If I were in a close relationship with someone and they acted like that when I visited them, I would have straight out asked them what was wrong?
When did the break up occur?
I’m not sure…but it sounds like you were his little side sugar cookie and he had a wife somewhere. OR my other thought….are you professional as well? If not he may have been worried about your appearance at his office in his regular environment…some ppl are weird that way.
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Sounds like an excerpt from a book, I assume you are writing. Very good and I would love to read some more, you had my complete attention to the end,
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"Why did he act like that? What was really up with him?"
Ask him. My suspicion: you might have been the other woman. Maybe he’s married? Is afraid of getting caught cheating? Maybe someone at work found out.
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he has ISSUES!!!
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