I want to get back together with my ex-girlfriend but dont know what to do…?
My girlfriend and I broke up for the second time back in January. It was because she needed a break from me and it was to much for her. She had be avoiding me so I pushed to find out why and I guess she thought it was to much and didn’t like where we were. We have not spoken much since. We talked briefly two weeks ago about our weekend and that type of small talk and then she texted me on friday night. It was the usual back and forth talk and then we preceded to mention that she missed sex with me and how amazing it was. and it was. when we had sex it was so good. She we talked so more and agreed that we should do it that night. I was studying that night so i could not go out like she wanted me to so she was drunk when she sent it but had sobered up when we got together. So we had sex and it was great. It wasn’t awkward and we talked a bit after to catch up. It was not weird. I asked about us and if she wanted to get back together and said no. Didn’t really want to talk about it so she made it clear that she does not want to be with me.
So i left and the next day i talked to her and told her that last night was great and wondered if we could do it again and see where we are. She said we could another time if it worked out and such. But it wont be a regular thing that happens. I can control my emotions and i want to do it but I want to be with her.
She is a very stubborn person and when she makes up her mind on something she sticks with it. So no matter what i say about getting back together she didn’t want to talk about it. But it makes me wonder if she dose not want to get back together and dose not feel the same then she would not want to have sex. When we had sex we had it like when we were dating. It was very passionate.
Now I know a lot of you are going to say to move on and she is not worth it but I love her and I know that she feels the same way. She just does not want to get hurt or make the mistake of getting back together and it dosent work out. My view is we try and what’s the worst that can happen? Then it wasn’t meant to be. I have changed a lot since when we broke up. I have had a lot of time to reflect and realize what I did wrong and I want her to know that and take a chance on me again. I just dont know what to do and want this to work.
Thanks everyone for your help!
So basically, she will have sex with you, but won’t get back together with you?
No, a relationship like that will never work, because basically, you are just being friends with benefits.
Forget about her. Move on.
So basically, she will have sex with you, but won’t get back together with you?
No, a relationship like that will never work, because basically, you are just being friends with benefits.
Forget about her. Move on.
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All you can do is talk to her about this and tell her honestly how you feel. If she still says no, then you should start distancing yourself from her. You are making a lot of assumptions about what she wants and how she feels. You could be wrong, or you could be right but will never change her mind. If she does not want to give you another chance, there is nothing you can do. Both of you need to want to put equal effort in to making things work if you are going to have a chance at a relationship.
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You guys might have the best sex ever but that’s probably the reason why she keeps in contact with you. She still lusts for you but it aint love, honey. It’s over. She doesn’t like you, she just wants the kind of sex she can’t get from another guy.
If you keep this up, whenever she feels lonely, she’ll get together with you again. You’ll be used and used and used so much that your poor heart won’t be able to take it anymore. So before you get there, please please just let it be a clean break. Trust me, the more you try to hold on, the more it’ll hurt.
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Been there, done that. But just not involving the sex.
Hello
Winning back your ex girlfriend is not easy at all. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win her back increase dramatically.
Here are great steps that helped me to get my ex girlfriend back:
Don’t Ask Her To Get Back Together
You should never ask her to get back together. Why? Simple, because her answer will be NO!
You’re only shot at getting her back is to follow the right steps that will make her ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.
But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.
So don’t ignore someone’s texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way.
You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show her that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.
Don’t Be Jealous
You must understand that …SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it can easily be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow I know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you are not together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.
If you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.
Being Flexible Is Very Important
Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. It’s better to be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who takes things easily is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again faster then you might think.
These tips were helpful for me to get my ex girlfriend back. However, if you really want to get her back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. You can learn about the most popular and reliable guides in this helpful blog:
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I hope that you will get your ex girlfriend back soon!
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