My Ex Boyfriend Wants To Be Friends – Can I Get Him Back?
If you’re sitting there wondering “My ex boyfriend wants to be friends… is there a way of winning him back?” you’re definitely not alone. Guys can be very confusing at times, and what they say isn’t always exactly what they mean. Sometimes, there are ways around the friendship role… paths that lead right back into your boyfriend’s arms again. But other times, friendship with your ex can spell the end of the road – at least romantically.
You need to understand the basics of guy psychology. When a man turns to a woman and says “I just want to be friends”, it can mean only one of three things:
1) He actually wants to break up with you. In this situation, a guy can’t bring himself to fully dump you, so he uses an offer of friendship to help break your fall. It’s his way of being nice about the breakup, but it’s also a cowardly thing to do. It can often make you think your boyfriend is sending you mixed signals, when he really just wants to move on.
2) He wants to date someone else. This scenario is the hardest one to recover from, immediately anyway, because your man might already have his sights set on another girl. If this is the case, there are ways you can prevent the break up from happening (if it’s early enough after he asks to be friends with you) and methods you can use to get your boyfriend back even if he does begin dating again. You need to act quickly though, being proactive and careful with every move you make if you still want your ex back.
3) He’s looking for change. In such a case, your now ex-boyfriend is bored or unhappy with the way things are, and wants to start fresh. Telling you he wants to be friends is his way of keeping you hanging around while he decides if breaking up is what he really wants. On his end, he can easily undo the friendship – especially if he knows you still love him. This gives him the freedom to look in new directions but the comfort of having you back with the snap of his fingers. This is an undesirable situation for you to be in, and there are some great ways out of it. You can quickly make your ex need and want you again, if you know what to do first.
Getting your ex back after you’ve become friends with him is ten times harder than if you refused such an offer. You need to know exactly what to do in this scenario, so you can avoid pushing your ex in the opposite direction. Only by adopting a step-by-step plan for winning him back – and then sticking to it – can you greatly increase your chances of getting back together again.
Anthony Malibu
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How to get ex boyfriend, who just wants to be friends, back?
My boyfriend broke up with me few weeks ago explaining he still loves me but he doesnt want to have a girlfriend as he is stressed at work. He insists on being best friends and being kind of sticking around. He says he still loves me. I am not that comfortable with it and decided to cut my contact with him. Are they any ways to fast forward the process of him deciding if he wants me back or should I forever forget about him? I am always there for him and he likes spending time with me, but doesnt want a relationship now. Do you think me getting on with my life and cutting my contact with him for a while will help him realise things? Or will I discourage him completely by not responding to his calls and messages? anyone ever been in simiar situation? Many people and friends say to ignore his calls and not reply for now, but I am confused? I think I would want him back but only if he truly loves me and realise what he lost. Help!
haha i know this sounds really childish but date other people while he is "deciding what to do" and make him jealous so he realizes that he wants you back. not only that it will be good for you to date other people so your not dwelling on your past. put yourself out there! lol hope i helped
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Please give yourself a break from it. it could be beneficial for both of you. You need a while to heal also. Go out with friends a lot. Deal with it when you think you’re ready. Right now you’re still hurting. If he calls don’t ignore them just tell him you just want space from him for a while. Absence makes the heart grow fonder…in some cases. This one I think fits.
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You cannot make someone be with you. I know its hard but you need to make a break from him if you cannot see yourself as just good friends.
Do not see him for a couple of weeks to work out how you feel. Tell him not to contact you and that you will contact him.
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Why are you so against being just best friends right now? He still loves you so it sounds like he does wanna be with you in the long run, but hes finding a full time relationship too difficult right now with the stress of work.
I would advise you to be there for him while hes going through this difficult period. If you just block him out like you’re doing because you’re upset with him for breaking up with you, then you might lose him forever.
It would be unfair of you to try and rush him back into a relationship with you when he can’t cope with it emotionally. Just be the best friend you can be with him, be really supportive, and hopefully he’ll realise how amazing you are in his life and he’ll get back with you =)
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There’s a couple old sayings that seem to ring true.Absence makes the heart grow stronger and you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.I suggest that you cut the ties and don’t respond to him.Give him his time and space.If he truly loves you,he’ll come back.Being stressed at work is merely an excuse.Everyone that works is stressed but they still continue to stay in relationships.There are plenty of fish in the sea.Don’t spin your wheels with this guy any longer.Go about your business and live for you.Dwelling on him is like beating a dead horse.Who knows,you just might find someone else.It’s been my experience,that when your not looking for someone,that’s when you usually find someone.Hope this is helpful to you.
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My ex said the same to me, he loved me to bits, but he needed to be single. He cried when I said I could not stay friends, but in the end I agreed. For the past 7 months we stayed very close friends, I even thought we were on the verge of getting back together, even family and friends thought we were going to get back together.
Then I told him one weekend that I still loved him and he said that he still wanted to be single but I still mean the world to him, a week later he started seeing someone new! He basically cut me out of his life after that, however he still gets in touch with my family to say how much I mean to him and so on.
He gets in touch with me and argue and say he needs time to figure out what we are too each other, then he goes back to ignoring me.
My advice – walk away, I have been left to feel hurt and used by my ex, if he wants you he would still be with you. I feel like I have gone through two break ups this year.
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DONT date other people, you do that your telling him you’ve moved on and he’ll tell you to get lost, he’ll think shes knows i love her but hes being a bitch and playing the field and rubbing it in my face.
sounds like its upto him if he wanst to get back with you after all its him with the problem
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Hi there,
we are definitely on similar tracks you and me, I have exactly the same problem. Only for me, he wasnt my boyfriend, we were just hanging out/dating. (Later on I asked him where we stood, he replied he just wanted to be my friend because he is too busy pursuing a career etc. When I told him not to talk to me again he got very upset and insisted on being friends anyway. Now we are back to being friends, but I try to distance myself whereas he keeps sending me messages every now and then.)
My advice:
Set up a time limit. How long are you willing to be in standby mode?
Write down a step-by-step plan and follow it! Like, first step is to be less available, NOT to be there for him always! Delete his number and dont answer when he calls. Step two, when/if he makes enough effort (only you know what is "enough effort"), then you can start replying and maybe see him some time.
But DON’T be passive and wait for him, focus on yourself and forget about him starting now! And after some time has elapsed and nothing’s happened, delete him from your life and move on.
Hope it helped
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I’m in the same situation
Ouch! That had to hurt emotionally and spiritually because your ex-boyfriend wants to maintain a friendship with you. Besides, if your ex-boyfriend still loves you, the two of you would still be together and he would have found ways to deal with stress instead of putting an end to the relationship. It’s best that you should leave him alone and get on with your life and you don’t need to put up with it. Yes, it’s hard to accept but you can find someone else that will make you happy and wants to be with you. For now, focus on yourself and let the healing process begin. Good luck and I wish you the best.
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Hi,
I know it is hard to go through that break up or see him slowly slipping away from you. It is heartbreaking and painful, but there is ways to get him back. He ones fell in love with you and you can make that happen again. The key is to know what to say and do to get him back.
Even if you feel that you are the only one wanting this relationship to work out right now, it is still possible. Couples reunite everyday and so can you and your boyfriend.
So what do you need to do to get back your ex boyfriend?
1. The first thing you need to do to get back your boyfriend is to Agree with the break up. I know it is hard and I know you probably do not agree with it. But for you to be able to move on, to get him back, you need to be on the same side as him. So let him know that you are totally ok with the break up, that you actually have thought about it and that you also think that this is the best thing for both of you right now.
2. Now you need to Give your boyfriend his space. Do not call him or text message him. Do not visit him or contact him in any way. Why? You want to give him the opportunity to miss you. If you keep contacting him, he will not miss you he will know exactly what is going on.
If you leave him alone he will start wondering what you are up to, if you miss him? If you are seeing somebody else? You kind of turn the table, make him wonder. The truth is that we want what we can not have so make yourself "unavailable" for him. If he contacts you be nice but short until you are ready for the next step…
3. So what should you be doing during this time when you are waiting to get back your boyfriend? Be the best you can be, that means stay positive, do things that makes you happy, take care of yourself. We all want to be around happy healthy positive people. You want to feel good about yourself, so when time comes your boyfriend will see the real happy, fun, positive you.
Why did your boyfriend fall in love with you in the first place? Well he did it ones and it can sure happen again. Find out what your next step should be… Go get back your ex boyfriend.
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Hey Karolina,
Guys sometimes do stupid things like calling for a breakup when they know they cannot handle their life. Why? He thinks he does not deserve you.
Some of the advise you have received is well intentioned. You should leave him alone for a while now. He also needs space to clear his head. Instead of calling him 10 times a day, just enjoy your life but keep in touch with him.
After some time, he will realise what he is missing in his life-you.
I have read an interesting article today. Check it out and all the best1
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http://www.buzzle.com/articles/5killer-strategies-on-how-to-get-your-girlfriend-back.html