How to Get My Ex Back if He Wants More Space- 5 Simple Tips to Get Him Back
Almost everyone has had a wonderful relationship in their life, when quickly everything that seemed perfect was broken off because their boyfriend wanted more space. There are a lot of reasons why a boyfriend may want more space including insecurities, family problems, or fear of commitment.
So, here are some tips for answering the question, how to get my ex back if your boyfriend needs more space.
1. Make sure you don’t lose your pride or allow him to get the best of you. You may want to play a little hard to get at first. It will show him that it is his loss and not yours.
2. If you’re feeling like your ex boyfriend still likes you, then its a good idea that you start a conversation with him. Be sure to keep communication to a minimum in order to minimize drama. Brief phone calls, short text messages, and online conversations are great ways to remind him how much he wants you without overwhelming.
3. Eventually, he’ll begin to show interest in you again if everything goes well. And this will give you the perfect chance to talk about the great memories you and him had. Be sure that you only focus on the good memories. While you’re rekindling your relationship with your ex boyfriend, you shouldn’t talk about the bad memories or bad experiences.
It could undo all of your hard work.
4. If your ex boyfriend doesn’t seem to respond to what you are doing, you should take it for what it is. He’s either not interested in you right now or he really needs space and you should give it to him. On the other hand, if he seems to be interested in you more than he was before or if he is slowly showing his interest in you, then you should continue to make advances to him to rekindle your relationship with him.
5. You can try to open your heart up to your ex boyfriend if he is giving you the right signals. Let him know what you are feeling. But make sure you don’t sound desperate or needy. If your ex is showing you that he’s thinking about getting back together with you, then it’s good that you open up to him. But if his signals are showing you that he’s not interested, it may be best if you step back and let things work them self out.
These are just the beginning steps to getting back with your ex. They’re the initial steps that I took when I lost my ex. And to be honest with you, these aren’t even my ideas. I turned to a guy named T ‘Dub’ Jackson when I needed help.
Tony Smith
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need ideas for my attempt at saving marriage…specifics if poss…?
ok every1 who may have been there b4. I need specific ideas here. after 17yrs unforseen marital crisis hit me several mths ago. loss of degree of her love, still loves but like a friend, no intimate connection felt. initial shock reaction pushed her further away, panicked, came off as needy & demanding, pushed her to point of saying she wanted out.
got myself under control, regained my lost confidence, went to work on me. changed some day2day behaviors, analysed situation in depth, took self improvement courses. changes have been noticed, responses changed from ‘its been too long, pretending too long, its too late’ & ‘just dont feel it anymore’ to ‘give me time/space to work some things out’.
We are right together, no doubt there. know problem comes from me not having met her emotional needs, got lazy there, insensitivites as a guy, and taking for granted we always would be. seeing as things always seemed good, never worked on anything. didnt know she was feeling a disconnect and just pretending everything was ok.
know u cant ‘make’ some1 love u that way, but believe intimate love can be recultivated, connections re-found. either way, believe a marriage, especially a good1, is worth fighting for. she is worth fighting for. seeing as even as we go thru this we get along gr8, little tension, talk, laugh, etc. for me speaks to likelyhood of re-connecting, at least worth a try to know for sure. believe almost any marriage can be saved, done enough research on subject to know that.
know at this point its not my decision, may have to let her go if she chooses, but unlike some people who would just throw in towel, I am not prepared to give up so easily.
this marriage is worth a 2nd chance. I am committed if she allows it, to not make same mistakes ever again. I have learned where/how I went wrong,&how to meet a womans emotional needs, once we get back to couple status instead of living like friends. I feel thru intuition that somewhere deep down she knows we can make this right & when expressed that to her, she did not deny it. know that it hasnt been that long in the grand scheme of things, but living so close to some1 that u desire so much,& r so good together(other than my having taken her for granted in certain ways), after having ur love re-awoken, is very hard to do. she has also said that she wouldnt want another after me, makes me believe she knows we are right together, so if we cant make it, who can?
she has not asked for a divorce or seperation, just time/space,& when I said if you want a divorce, I’ll give it to u, whatever it takes to make u happy, she responded with noone is talking divorce yet, makes me believe shes waiting to see/feel something from me b4 she makes her ultimate decision. in terms of feel, having hard time generating an internal love feeling, to put out that vibe, while feeling such anxiety on this turn of events. so while I work on that, there must be some simple, subtle things that i can do to make her feel wanted, valued, loved etc. not to sound like a rookie, but been lontime since i tried to woo someone, a little rusty.
some say to recreate, re-do what was done the 1st time, problem there is respecting time/space, cant come home with flowers, go out on dates, little notes, little carresses etc. with 2 young children at home & busy schedule, adds more limitations. can’t do the traditional ‘dating’ type things.
any ideas? small, specific, subtle but noticeable ideas that would make a woman feel wanted, appreciated, loved, while in time/space mode? something that might just tip the scale a little? or should I just do nothing, sit by and hope?
Good for you wanting to save your marriage.
A couple of things come to mind.
Ask your wife to stop watching soap operas and hanging out with divorced and divorce-pending friends.
You say you have 2 young children, help her with some of those chores that go with young children.
What does she REALLY, REALLY like? Crackers with melted cheese? Clean windows? Spotless vehicle? Pick one thing each week and do it or arrange to have it done for her.
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Start being loving towards her. A woman needs to feel like she is loved no matter what. Don’t let yourself get walked all over, but, do not become engaged in a fight. Do not respond to negative things that she says. If she is treating you badly, tell her you will be back when things have cooled off and go for a walk. Do little things for her that you know she likes.
Try to think back to when things were good in your marriage. How did she show you love. Did she touch you a lot, massage your shoulders, kiss, hug. Did she tell you how much she loved you, and that you were great at things, the greatest man in the world etc… Or, did she do things for you, clean out your car, press your shirts, make your favorite meals. Did she bring you gifts? Small or large was gifting things to you? Or, did she want to just spend time with you, whatever you were doing. Fixing your car, running to the store to pick something up, did she always want to go with you?
How a woman shows you love, is often the biggest way that she can read that you love her. If she feels love by being told it, and by spending time with her, and you show her love by buying her gifts, and performing acts of service for her, but are too busy to say it or spend time with her, you will get your wires crossed.
Figure out her love languages and then speak them.
Don’t be a servant, or grovel, , she will not respect you for that, but, try to show her with your actions, or words, or whatever will speak to her, that you love her. And if she gets angry, do not read her a list of all the things that you have done for her, just tell her you love her and don’t want to fight. She will not show you any appreciation, and she may even be more nasty to you, but push through it. IT is very difficult to maintain an argument, or to remain angry and distant with someone that is humbly showing you love.
Resolve to change your actions for one month, and see what happens.
Good luck and Godbless… and congrats on fighting for your marriage.
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Take the love dare. Watch Fireproof to understand it better. I commend you for realizing it was you who needed to change and you changed.
I also commend your wife, for not accepting your divorce answer, just asking for space. To me that says she wants things to work. To many people today take the easy way out and don’t realize marriage is 100% give from both parties. Good luck to you.
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http://fireproofyourmarriage.com/
Great mind that you have wanted to save your marriage. I think the most important thing is to have positive thinking on how you can save this marriage. Best is you and your partner spend some quality time together and have more communication together .
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You could spend lots of time doing family things. You said that you have two young children at home, try getting together as a family and doing family things- maybe that will make her realize that she’s ready to give it another try. Or if you want to me sweet but give her her time and space…maybe bring her home a card telling her how much you care with a gift certificate to a spa/nail salon – put something gay and sappy in it like "allowing you your space and relaxation time doing something for yourself" blah blah blah – You could also do more for yourself like get a fresh haircut, shave, dress better then ever, make her realize that you haven’t become this lazy person who feels like he doesn’t have to try anymore! Give her space and the time she is asking for but don’t just sit back and let her slowly walk away… try but don’t force it apon her… good luck!
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I’ve been in the same brand shoes as your wife!
Kuddos for looking inward and learning from your mistakes. My idea for a date is start simple. Maybe take her out to a place you know she likes, but isn’t over the top fancy. Maybe like Applebee’s or something like that. Surprise her once and a while. Get her flowers and send them to work (or home if she’s a house wife) and put a little card with it. Saying something like, "Thinking of you. I love you…ect" Take it slow. If she really means what you’re saying, she will appreciate it, but you have told her that you will give her a divorce if she wants it. You have hope, cause she said that no one is talking that. Do little things for her, they add up. Don’t try to get her back in bed ASAP, take it slow and remember how much you love her.
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Married for almost 6 years and loving it!
Who has emotional needs? What is that all about? Yes, we all have emotional needs but do you marry to get them fulfilled? This is no more than a one-sided demand. So let’s get one thing straight: both men and women have emotional needs but you do not get married to get them fulfilled.
Marriage is a getting together of two individuals, who, first as friends, and then as partners, try by finding solutions for their different emotional and cultural make up, using compromise to make adjustments to their partner, form the bond of marriage.
There is nothing one-sided in this idea. Get more info on what marriage is all about by checking my source.
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She is a women and like most women she will need to talk about the problem so I would suggest a good councilor who will help the lines of communication and keep you two on track to working out your problems and not rehashing them. A good councilor will help
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