Comments on: Why Do Most Marriages Fail? http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/ Mon, 19 Sep 2011 20:20:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: LAgirl http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5983 LAgirl Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:24:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5983 Lots of reasons. Mostly reasons that people put up with from each other that they shouldn't. Love is blind, deaf and dumb. Lust is mistaken for chemistry. Mutual trust, admiration and respect are out the window when a person's top priorities are looks and money. Here are some things your should look out for: No such thing as love at first sight. Instant Chemistry, yes. Real love grows. Story inconsistencies (liars) Drug/Drinking abuse Mental/emotional illness (depressed, quick to anger) Cheaters/secretly spoken for Immaturity(fear of commitment, selfishness) Players Lack of kindness/compassion for others (parental issues) If you don't feel 150% happier when your sweety is next to you and you don't feel angels from heaven touching you when you make love, that's a red flag. Re-think this person. Always, always, always take time to get to know your partner in all situations and with all of the friends and family of this person. When you have formed a bond so strong that you can see yourself HAPPILY growing old with this person no matter what, you are ready for marriage.<br><b>References : </b><br> Lots of reasons. Mostly reasons that people put up with from each other that they shouldn’t. Love is blind, deaf and dumb. Lust is mistaken for chemistry. Mutual trust, admiration and respect are out the window when a person’s top priorities are looks and money. Here are some things your should look out for:

No such thing as love at first sight. Instant Chemistry, yes. Real love grows.
Story inconsistencies (liars)
Drug/Drinking abuse
Mental/emotional illness (depressed, quick to anger)
Cheaters/secretly spoken for
Immaturity(fear of commitment, selfishness)
Players
Lack of kindness/compassion for others (parental issues)

If you don’t feel 150% happier when your sweety is next to you and you don’t feel angels from heaven touching you when you make love, that’s a red flag. Re-think this person.

Always, always, always take time to get to know your partner in all situations and with all of the friends and family of this person. When you have formed a bond so strong that you can see yourself HAPPILY growing old with this person no matter what, you are ready for marriage.
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]]> By: cc's bad http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5982 cc's bad Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:22:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5982 infidelity<br><b>References : </b><br> infidelity
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]]> By: On A Journey http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5981 On A Journey Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:20:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5981 Based on many of the questions I see here on YA and my own experience, it's lack of communication. People don't seem to share even the most basic of feelings/thoughts with their partners and it ends up getting nasty.<br><b>References : </b><br> Based on many of the questions I see here on YA and my own experience, it’s lack of communication. People don’t seem to share even the most basic of feelings/thoughts with their partners and it ends up getting nasty.
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]]> By: Sarah http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5980 Sarah Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:18:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5980 I think a lot of marriages fail when they're based on reason. Like he got her pregnant while still very young, because they already have 1,2,3 ... kids together and thought they needed to be "officially" a family now, because of money (like better taxes in some countries), because they're were good friends and always got along or whatsoever. Marriage should be based on Love in the first place. Those marriages that are only based on love, without trying to give reasons why they should get married, even if its 6 months after they have met for the first time, are in my opinion most likely to last the longest. Sure there are other factors that become important, like i.e. trust and compromise that are necessary to make a marriage work.<br><b>References : </b><br> I think a lot of marriages fail when they’re based on reason. Like he got her pregnant while still very young, because they already have 1,2,3 … kids together and thought they needed to be "officially" a family now, because of money (like better taxes in some countries), because they’re were good friends and always got along or whatsoever. Marriage should be based on Love in the first place. Those marriages that are only based on love, without trying to give reasons why they should get married, even if its 6 months after they have met for the first time, are in my opinion most likely to last the longest.
Sure there are other factors that become important, like i.e. trust and compromise that are necessary to make a marriage work.
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]]> By: Naijah M http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5979 Naijah M Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:16:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5979 well mostly on cheating or being unhappy in theie love life<br><b>References : </b><br> well mostly on cheating or being unhappy in theie love life
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]]> By: Dean G http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5978 Dean G Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:14:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5978 Because people get bored with one another. Hate to say it but its like Christmas morning when you have that new toy and you play with it like its the best thing in the world. The next month its sitting in the basement because it's new excitement wore off. This is why people cheat and fall out of love because its not new anymore. Perhaps the real problem is monogamy doesn't work in real life. The only reason old people stayed together in the past is because women were financially dependent on men and needed to survive. Now that women have their own money and jobs what do they need men for. If you look at the marriages that do work the #1 reason is they have lots of money. When you have money you can consume and take vacations to deal with the boredom of being with the same person. My tips for making a marriage work is: -First don't get married. -Ok for some reason if you do have to get married make sure you have lots of money. Money is the #1 reason why couples fight. -Be done with school and have a good paying job. -Sow your wild oats when you are younger and only get married when you are older. Nothing worst that a 40 year old in strip clubs and cheating just because he didn't do it early in his life. -If you do get married put the time in. Marriage takes alot of work just like anything in life. -Try to spice things up by having different kinds of sex and doing different things. -Make sure you date your spouse. Go to different festivals, concerts, restaurants, hiking. Do anything different to keep things fresh. -Stay in shape and healthy for your spouse. Staying in shape shows you still care about your spouse.<br><b>References : </b><br>http://www.lovegevity.com/marriage/expertadvice/makingmarriagework.html www.ehow.com/how_4449604_make-marriage-work.html Because people get bored with one another. Hate to say it but its like Christmas morning when you have that new toy and you play with it like its the best thing in the world. The next month its sitting in the basement because it’s new excitement wore off. This is why people cheat and fall out of love because its not new anymore. Perhaps the real problem is monogamy doesn’t work in real life. The only reason old people stayed together in the past is because women were financially dependent on men and needed to survive. Now that women have their own money and jobs what do they need men for. If you look at the marriages that do work the #1 reason is they have lots of money. When you have money you can consume and take vacations to deal with the boredom of being with the same person.

My tips for making a marriage work is:

-First don’t get married.
-Ok for some reason if you do have to get married make sure you have lots of money. Money is the #1 reason why couples fight.
-Be done with school and have a good paying job.
-Sow your wild oats when you are younger and only get married when you are older. Nothing worst that a 40 year old in strip clubs and cheating just because he didn’t do it early in his life.
-If you do get married put the time in. Marriage takes alot of work just like anything in life.
-Try to spice things up by having different kinds of sex and doing different things.
-Make sure you date your spouse. Go to different festivals, concerts, restaurants, hiking. Do anything different to keep things fresh.
-Stay in shape and healthy for your spouse. Staying in shape shows you still care about your spouse.
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http://www.lovegevity.com/marriage/expertadvice/makingmarriagework.html

www.ehow.com/how_4449604_make-marriage-work.html

]]> By: redlionlantern4 http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5977 redlionlantern4 Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:12:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5977 That both of you share similar goals. That you both like and love the person...the love bit can wear off after 3 or 4 years and you are left with someone you can't stand. List his/her qualities...are these the ones you most admire? Are you both tolerant? Are you willing to compromise? Is the other party willing to do so , too? Are you both selfish? Or is only one party selfish? Such a partnership is doomed unless the unselfish person is willing to constantly give way. Do you share similar values? Can you see you both in 10/20 years? Do you think you will be together? Marriages fail because people in love gloss over the characteristics of the person they are going to marry.<br><b>References : </b><br>Marrital texts and life experience That both of you share similar goals.
That you both like and love the person…the love bit can wear off after 3 or 4 years and you are left with someone you can’t stand. List his/her qualities…are these the ones you most admire?
Are you both tolerant? Are you willing to compromise? Is the other party willing to do so , too?
Are you both selfish? Or is only one party selfish? Such a partnership is doomed unless the unselfish person is willing to constantly give way.
Do you share similar values?
Can you see you both in 10/20 years? Do you think you will be together?
Marriages fail because people in love gloss over the characteristics of the person they are going to marry.
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]]> By: Sara W http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5976 Sara W Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:10:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5976 Lack of communication, the inability to compromise, marrying for the wrong reasons, lack of real attraction, money problems. My ex married me because he liked the way I looked and just about nothing else and I liked the fact that he made good money. He also thought I was stupid and I thought he was boring.<br><b>References : </b><br> Lack of communication, the inability to compromise, marrying for the wrong reasons, lack of real attraction, money problems. My ex married me because he liked the way I looked and just about nothing else and I liked the fact that he made good money. He also thought I was stupid and I thought he was boring.
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]]> By: Gecko Girl http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5975 Gecko Girl Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:08:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5975 My marriage almost failed because of lies. I was completely honest and he lied. If a marriage isnt built on truth, among other things, it wont work<br><b>References : </b><br> My marriage almost failed because of lies. I was completely honest and he lied. If a marriage isnt built on truth, among other things, it wont work
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]]> By: Legandivori http://togetbackex.com/how-to-get-back-ex/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5974 Legandivori Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:06:59 +0000 http://togetbackex.com/963/why-do-most-marriages-fail/#comment-5974 Mature love and friendship must be there, or the marriage will almost certainly fail. Sex is NOT love, I repeat: sex is NOT love. It is nature';s WAY to reproduce the specie is only. If you are mildy attracted to someone, but they treat you like gold, and you treat them the same, Sex will be very satisfying. Have great looks, be sexy but a terribly selfish and nasty person, np one will want to go to bed with you indefinitely. People are rarely really great fiends, and without that sincere and ho9nest best friends type of caring, marriages fail or stay dull and lacking caring.<br><b>References : </b><br> Mature love and friendship must be there, or the marriage will almost certainly fail. Sex is NOT love, I repeat: sex is NOT love. It is nature’;s WAY to reproduce the specie is only. If you are mildy attracted to someone, but they treat you like gold, and you treat them the same, Sex will be very satisfying. Have great looks, be sexy but a terribly selfish and nasty person, np one will want to go to bed with you indefinitely.

People are rarely really great fiends, and without that sincere and ho9nest best friends type of caring, marriages fail or stay dull and lacking caring.
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